father calls me very other hour

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my father is old and he calls me every other hour.
I always talk and answer his calls saying that I am busy and will chat later .Today he called me 17 times .He stays with my mum who is same old but she doesnt call me so much .Just one catch up call and thats it .
I am wondering should I ask mum to show him to mental health .

He really misses me I understand but I think there is more to it .He is 67 now .

That is quite a lot , does he remember the other times in the day that he has called you or does he have no recollection?

67 is not very old, it’s the current retirement age only. Phoning you this often is not ‘normal’ behaviour from him and must be very disruptive.
DH and I are similar age and speak with DC’s once a week or so, maybe odd text also if something comes up.

FIL used to phone DH weekly, it then became a few times a week, then daily then finally -when he was feeling really lonely & old- it got to several times a day. Even if it was just ‘the butcher has given me X meat, how will I cook it’ half an hour later it would be ‘ what would it be nice to have with it, roast or mash?’

There were times it drove us crackers but he recently died & MIL died a couple of months later. We miss the phone ringing now

Is there a social prescriber attached to their gp surgery, or google if there is a service in their local area, they may be able to sign post him to things that can occupy him or both of them & help his emotional well-being.
www.england.nhs.uk/personalisedcare/social-prescribing/

I have a similar issue so watching with interest.

At 67 id be really concerned. Any other signs of dementia? MIL called us incessantly before (and after!) dx.

he's not old, but certainly sounds like he might be either lonely or needing some help with his mental health in general. have you discussed how he is feeling?

67 isn't old. It's working age But no it doesn't sound right. Tell him not to phone more than once a day. If he can't remember then your mother needs to involve social care/his GP.

67 is not very old at all.
Having said that, my friend’s Dad had Alzheimer’s and his illness started in his 50s.
He would bombard my friend with phone calls in the early days.
Talk to your Mum and try to find out if this is part of any other ‘out of the ordinary’ behaviour.

67 isn't old - my dad is 70 and he spends his time sending me memes on WhatsApp. I'd be concerned about the amount of calls a day at that age, do you have any other siblings? Does he call them all the time too?