Home educators scared of the world

[Marmaladee]

I know this might sound unreasonable but bear with me.
I know some brilliant home ed families, their children socialise every day with other children and they do loads of activities.
But I know two families, one in uk and one in US who seem to just be scared of everything and want to keep their kids locked up at home. It's unfair. They are teenagers and spend all day at home in bedrooms on computers 'teaching themselves' that's the philosophy. But actually they are gamers, the kids look depressed and have no social skills.
How is this okay?
I know school isn't all brilliant but children sometimes need a little encouragement to socialise and school just makes that happen.

This type of thread just isn't going to go well.

I admire many home educators, and if I had the option I'd much prefer to home educate a child than send them to school.

I know a lot of shit home educators who are not preparing their children well for the future.

I also know and admire a lot of parents whose children go to school.

I also know a lot of parents whose children go to school whose basic needs at home are barely met

The world is full of all sorts. If you have a genuine safeguarding concern you can report it to social services. If not, then beak out.

@RickiTarr

What a goady pile of old balls.

Quite.

I know of a fair few (from SEN groups I'm part of) families whose children cannot cope with mainstream, where special schools are not the answer either, and Early help are deployed once a decision is made to Home Ed.
These families, who have been let down by Camhs, schools, LA'S, who have invariably been on parenting courses, have researched SEN, have countless books on the matter, and spend as much of their own money as they can to try and get help for their children, then live in fear of being labeled as Munchousens.
The county I live in is particularly bad for this.

So while I'm sure there are some families who home Ed and abuse their kids, there are also families who home Ed and are accused of abuse. The real abuse in these situations is from the system completely failing these families and gaslighting them when they decide they can't/won't help them.

@kindaclassy

I feel sometimes school is chosen because of the parents' anxiety and not what's best for the child.

it doesn't make the comment of the OP any less true. 🤷

“I feel sometimes…” is a pointless construction, in that sense, though.

I feel sometimes people get married to get their hands on some racing pigeons.

I feel sometimes tall people are sex offenders.

I feel sometimes women who wear orange skirts are bigots.

Lots of things are true “sometimes” but not to an extent that’s comment worthy.

Nobody can contradict someone else’s “feelings” about what might be the case. People “feel” all manner of delusion things.

It’s such a useful form of words for smearing entire demographics, though. 🙄

I totally get why people feel they have no choice. I think it's a bit like being a vegan. If people want you to know, they make sure you do whereas the majority just crack on with their own network.