To think colleagues behaviour was wrong?

[spinningaroundthemoon]

We have a group chat on Teams at work for our whole department (we work from home still). Last week I was off work and then today I was reading through the chat and I saw that a colleague was calling out a perceived action of mine in a negative way. It was actually a management issue.

She obviously assumed that I would never have seen it. I approached her about it and asked her to not do that again she got extremely defensive saying - she doesn’t appreciate messages like that. Then I was told that she had gone to 2 other people in the team saying some “snake” had told me

Aibu to think if she was genuinely aggrieved by something she thought I had done she could have spoken to me or a manager if she didn’t feel comfortable.

Calling someone out in a group chat to an entire team when that person isn’t there to defend themselves is bad and unprofessional behaviour?

Depends what she said.
If it was factual ie "XX hasn't done that yet and now she's on annual leave" then that's fine.

If it was "XX was supposed to do it last week but didn't and she never meets deadlines". Then that's not OK.

Sounds like she's the snake. Keep your eye in her and be tight lipped about any work, lest she steal it. Cross ts and dot i's around her.

Absolutely she was wrong & very unprofessional. You could speak to your manager or HR, if nothing else she was needs some training on appropriate use of resources

I agree it depends what and how it was done. Its stressful picking up someones work when they're off and trying to unpick what's going on. If it was 'I've got a customer chasing this and they are saying moon promised to come back to them yesterday and I can't trace anything, is anyone aware of it' then that's ok. If its 'I cant believe moon didn't go back to them!' Ie giving any personal opinion or telling people info for the sake of it then yes thats unprofessional

@Hercisback

Depends what she said. If it was factual ie "XX hasn't done that yet and now she's on annual leave" then that's fine.

If it was "XX was supposed to do it last week but didn't and she never meets deadlines". Then that's not OK.

Really? Sorry I don’t want to turn this into you all have to say YANBU and I don’t accept any other answer.

Even your first example I would ask that directly to a manager. Not to the entire team.

Sorry should have added it would have been something only the manager would address with me and no one at team level could.

What did she actually say OP?

Was it true?

I do think it depends on what was said and why.

Out of the blue moaning is harder to defend than something specific like

"I need x from you"
"Oh I can't, spinning hasn't done y yet ".

If that makes sense.

However her reaction after doesn't leave much room for doubt. Do you want to take this further, forget about it or try to solve it amicably somehow?

calling out a perceived action of mine in a negative way

What does that actually mean?

Not very professional, is it?

My boss told my team today why I had called in sick. I was just like wtf? How is that appropriate? If I wanted them to know, I’d tell them myself! Some people are just clueless. For your colleague to badmouth you then become defensive when called out on it tells me that she knows she’s done wrong.

She sounds like a right snide back stabbing cow 🌸