AIBU to feel very annoyed at DS’s school?

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folgern · 05/07/2021 20:04

DS was at his dads this weekend. His dad messaged on Friday to say he'd been punched by a boy at school and DS told him he's being bullied but he would speak to the school today.

My ex spoke to them and they said they'd speak to the boys. Today, he came home and he told me one of the boys pushed him and his arm hurts to move (if it's still like it tomorrow ill take him to A&E).

The school obviously haven't spoken to the boys if they're still doing this!!

Aibu to feel very annoyed??

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Usernam15679086 · 05/07/2021 20:27

YANBU. I would give the school a call tomorrow to ask if they have spoken to them or not. I really hope they don't lay another finger on your son. Little shits.

Maryjane3227 · 05/07/2021 20:37

You are right to be angry, it's only natural.
I hope the person in charge of the year group can sort it (don't leave it to whichever teacher was near by at the time, they might not be authorised to issue the sanctions etc, though they should be writing up a statement about what they know). I'd find out who is in charge of the year, they might be called a Head of Year, or a Learning Coordinator, schools vary. You need to ask them what the anti bullying policy is, if student or staff witness statements were collected, if there is CCTV where the incidents happened.
You aren't allowed to ask what punishment the other students received, though I totally get why you'd want to know, but it isn't legally seen as your business.

Good luck. I hope justice prevails. I hope your son is OK and that he soon feels more comfortable a d safe at school.

Hercisback · 05/07/2021 20:40

The school obviously haven't spoken to the boys if they're still doing this!!

The school may have spoken to them, you don't know.

I understand your frustration and feelings of concern. You really need to speak to someone at the school and find out more. Head of year is usually the first port of call.

pinksquash13 · 05/07/2021 20:42

Definitely speak to his head of year. Sometimes things take days to get to as there's many other incidents to get through. Sorry for your son.

Iggi999 · 05/07/2021 20:57

It's not obvious at all that they haven't been spoken to!

CassandraTrotter · 05/07/2021 20:58

@Iggi999

It's not obvious at all that they haven't been spoken to!

Yes this. I dont know why youd think it is obvious.

Phone the school tomorrow. And get his arm checked out.

LittleOwl153 · 05/07/2021 21:02

I'd get the arm looked at - especially if it is still hurting now. Sadly a trip to A&E - which will flag on their safeguarding system - is more likely to get this bullying taken seriously.

FinallyHere · 06/07/2021 07:53

The school obviously haven't spoken to the boys if they're still doing this!!

Isn't that exactly the risk, that the school have 'spoken' to the bullies and they have escalated their behaviour to demonstrate their power.

I don't know the answer, but it is always helpful to keep at least in your own thinking, to verifiable facts

KarmaStar · 06/07/2021 09:07

@FinallyHere that's exactly what I thought.

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