Would this upset you?

[PleaseBeKind12]

Neighbour came round to drop off a parcel. She had on a nice jacket and to be fair, did look quite pretty. My granddaughter said 'I love your jacket Amy!' and my DP nodded, agreed and I could tell he was thinking she looked attractive. Kind of felt he should have said nothing and also he did not see I was in the kitchen. Could tell he thought she looked beautiful and it's just upset me a bit.

He agreed with a compliment on her jacket, don't make a mountain out of a molehill.

Probably not. I don’t think it’s an issue for my husband to acknowledge that someone looks nice in a nice jacket. But a lot depends on what your husband is like - if he’s faithful and decent and tells you look beautiful etc. then fine, if he doesn’t appreciate you, is a sleaze or is a cheat then not fine.

No, it wouldn't upset me unless he had a history of being unfaithful or inappropriate. It sounds like he was being nice.

In the nicest way possible OP, you are being a bit unreasonable. Your DP sounded like he was being polite, not gushing with compliments for your neighbour. If your self esteem is a bit low at the moment, talk to him, tell him how you're feeling and that the odd compliment from him might help. Be sure to return the favour though. We all need a boost sometimes.

No, it definitely wouldn't upset me. Is this a 'straw that broke the camel's back issue', though?

are you hoping your DP gets blind and doesn't notice anyone else?

You find someone pretty, why shouldn't he too?
If you are uncomfortable in your own skin, fair enough, but address that. It has nothing to do with the poor guy.

YABU

No

Eh?

No that wouldn’t bother me at all. People are allowed to think others look attractive. I think other men look attractive all the time. So long as he’s not sneaking off round hers behind your back then you’re over reacting.

YABSO

Nope, DH and I openly tell people when they are looking good/handsome/pretty etc.
Even if your DP did find her attractive, so what? I find loads of people attractive but that doesn't mean I'm going to act on it or have any desire too. I love my DH and I'd never do that.

I think there is a difference between thinking someone looks pretty and thinking their jacket looks nice.

If he had said 'you look pretty in that jacket' then that's different but it sounds like all he did was nod when someone else said they liked the jacket.

If he had said he loved her bra or her top if it was really tight and low cut I might have thought differently...

Your DH can’t nod agreement with a child’s compliment? Should he have said
‘You’re entitled to your opinion DGD but I’m happily married thanks’

😵‍💫😱 what now?!

Seriously? You are being absolutely ridiculous

@Choice4567

He should have said that’s a nice jacket but my wife has a nicer one

Didn't you post recently about the same thing?

Sorry but the issue here lies solely eoth you

@Choice4567

Your DH can’t nod agreement with a child’s compliment? Should he have said ‘You’re entitled to your opinion DGD but I’m happily married thanks’

😂

I think when you are standing in a group and one person compliments another, it is the polite thing to then show an acknowledgement that you are in agreement with the person who made the compliment. Otherwise it looks like you are making a point of not agreeing. It is the polite thing to do.

What's the back story OP?

Because if there isn't one and this is true, you probably need some professional help.

What could he have done!! He didn’t even say anything? He just nodded which is the least he could get away with in that situation tbf. The alternative is to say “ no actually, amy doesn’t look nice/ Amy looks like a bag of spanners”