In my opinion

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My partner has been worrying and has fear about more covid restrictions being eased and started mentioning things to me. She said she feels scared about another spread of the virus. I had to calm her down because she's just worries a lot about these sort of things, she has felt anxious about all the stages of the easing tbh and I tried to reassure. I showed her stuff but she thinks it will go back up. She has been avoiding going out as much as possible and stuff. Sometimes stop thinking about it and stuff. She sees people going out on social media and this is another thing that makes her anxious. She seems a bit worried as well since hearing about that more easing might happen 19th.

I don't mention this to her but Im the total opposite of my gf, I want to go back to normal and go back to pre covid but my partner is just like wanting to go back to lockdowns and everything. She thinks it's too early to be lifting restrictions and thinks because of the new variants we should be back in lockdown

What do you mean "probably"?

@Ellpellwood there might be a waiting list

She still has a right to be mad with me though for going out so I don't because last time she kicked me out. (we live with my parents) I went back to try and get in but she was shouting from the upstairs window when I was on the driveway trying to get in she was screaming for me to go away.

Aside from her having no right to kick you out of your own shared home, much less one owned by your own parents, she sounds like she really does need to see somebody urgently about her extreme anxiety. Where is she actually expecting you to go away to? It's totally unfair that she's trying to control you based on her irrational fears, but it's no way for her to be living her own life either (assuming it's genuine and not calculated manipulative abuse).

Five people every single day die in the UK in road accidents, but I bet she didn't scream (pre covid) every time she saw a car and demand that the driver immediately stop the engine and abandon the vehicle.

Is she even elderly and/or (physically) vulnerable? Hundreds of thousands of people have already had covid and felt a bit under the weather for a while or had no symptoms at all.

I'm not saying that people should be complacent, but you do have to accept that life does come with a tiny element of risk - you do what you can to mitigate it but then you just have to get on with living. An asteroid could hurtle from space and crash into your house tomorrow, killing the whole street.... but you don't sit there shivering and putting your (and your partner's) life on permanent hold in fear of it.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll, I know we built sausage roll but she says I'm the one in the wrong so I shouldn't be allowed. I might phone a gp

Shes not vulnerable

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She definitely needs to see a GP. She needs to either acknowledge that she needs help or, if she refuses to do so, she needs to suffer from her own self-imposed restrictions and not expect others to do so.

What are you supposedly in the wrong for? Going about you life normally whilst adhering to the current government rules/guidelines? You 'allow' yourself to live as normally as possible, the government 'allows' you to (within the rules), so, MH issues or not, she simply can't dictate to you.

Considering that the vulnerable have been told (two months ago) that they can stop shielding, how does she see this playing out for the majority? If she doesn't expect anybody to be working and living as normal, how is she expecting to get food and utilities supplied to the house? What does she deem as essential? Because if there's a risk of spreading it, there's a risk - regardless of whether you're doing something totally frivolous or out saving somebody's life.

She really does need help, urgently - otherwise she'll end up dragging you both down together.

She says essential journeys only @WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

Either way, a visit (whether in person or online/phone) to her GP sounds like the most essential thing for her right now. I mean that genuinely: it's awful enough for you, but imagine what it must be like in her own head right now.

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