I have this female neighbour, she's early 30's and I"m mid-40's. She lives with her mum about 10 houses down the road from me and she is super chatty to everyone. I don't think she has (m)any friends and she keeps asking me to go out for drinks with her, go shopping, go for lunch etc. I really don't want to do this and I have been very vague and non-committal when she has asked and just sort of mumbled that I'm busy, maybe next month etc etc.
She does have autism, which I think might complicate this as I'm not sure she is picking up that I am not interested and she just keeps on asking. She's a perfectly nice woman, but we have so very little in common. She lives at home, she has a (really creepy) boyfriend in his late 20's who like to smoke weed on the street and give passers by dirty looks, she has no job (never has) and talks pretty much only about the weather or her dog. I have teenage kids, a career, husband and quite a full calendar normally.
I don't mind making neighbourly small talk when I see her, but I really don't want anything more than that, nor do I want it to be awkward when I see her (which it is starting to become anyway), how do I handle this? AIBU to keep brushing her off, what are the odds that she will one day stop asking? I can't really say that I'm happy to chat when I bump into her, but I don't want to spend any length of time with her, can I? Or is there a nicer way to word that, as that is basically the message I want to get across.