I’ve been asking my ex to go to mediation as we have constant problems with contact, although he does see my son there’s always lies involved, reasons he can’t collect him, reasons he can’t drop him off. He once said he wouldn’t drop my son because his daughter would cry if he left and my son would just have to miss school? I couldn’t collect him as I was working so my 18 year old had to collect him on my behalf. We were contacted 30mins before he was due to be dropped off.
Our relationship had domestic violence involved and he lied pathologically. He still does. It’s really started to batter my mental health and I can’t cope with it all. I try to keep the communication to visitation only but it doesn’t work. When we inevitably collect my son there’s always son lie said, statement made etc. I asked my Ex MIL if we could mediate with her there and my current partner since he won’t see a professional mediator. Her response was vile and I’m just lost at what to do. I’ve decided court would be better because someone else would be making the decisions and we’d both be held accountable.
I’ve decided until it’s done my son can’t have contact with his father, seems harsh I know but I just can’t Cope with it anymore. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I feel terrible, I always feel like a villain. I’d really hoped we could have an arrangement in place so we wouldn’t have to have contact. I had asked for him to pick him up from School Friday and drop him Monday morning so we didn’t have to have contact but he’s refused that too.
What do I do?