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To hate my husband’s moustache?

7 replies

WellyBoot12345 · 04/07/2021 10:21

I really don’t like facial hair on men, never have. Fine on other men, each to their own and I know that some men suit it. My husband has grown a moustache and it literally turns my stomach. I feel it looks awful on him, it just doesn’t suit him and he looks creepy. He sits twisting the ends of it and it turns my stomach. I literally can’t even look at him in the face for more than a few moments … sex life was pretty non-existent anyway as we’re both tired all the time but now, no way!! He knows how much I hate it but won’t shave it off. He thinks I’m being controlling in wanting him to. I would never do something with my physical appearance that he found physically repellent, it upsets me that he knows how much I loathe it but says that he’s keeping it anyway. I’ve dropped the subject, but what would you do? And please don’t say I have to learn to like it because he’s had it for months and has also done this before, I’ve always loathed it. I do wonder if I have a phobia of moustaches, it apparently is a real thing!

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WorraLiberty · 04/07/2021 10:24

Neither of you are being unreasonable.

You can't help how you feel and it's his face so his decision.

There's nothing you can do here.

girlmom21 · 04/07/2021 10:25

YANBU to hate it but it's up to him whether or not he keeps it.

OwlinaTree · 04/07/2021 10:27

My DH shaved his beard into a type of John Mackurick style thing. I honestly couldn't look at him, he looked so awful. He's only done it for a laugh so he shaved the lot off the next day. I know what you mean though, it can really be off putting despite it being the same person.

laddyandthetramp · 04/07/2021 10:30

Agree, though I'm the opposite and find it really off putting when my partner shaves. Doesn't suit at all, very unattractive

Thankfully he lets it grow back eventually, it's a once-a-few-months thing. But I really understand.

Definitely not controlling to state your opinion imo. You met him shaved (presumably), and it's something he could very easily change if he wanted - so not like insisting your partner lose weight for you

StCharlotte · 04/07/2021 10:31

Are you married to Harry McGuire? If so YANBU.

cheesepizza22 · 04/07/2021 10:31

@StCharlotte

Are you married to Harry McGuire? If so YANBU.
This made me laugh so much 😂
MeepyMupp · 04/07/2021 10:44

It's his face so I don't think it's fair for you to dictate how he has any facial hair. But I also don't think you are out of order for hating it, you can't help that as it's personal preference. I don't mind a partner having a full beard, but I'm with you on having just a moustache. I can't stand them on their own as to me they look deeply unattractive, creepy and a bit gross. Never have liked them and never will.

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