Hiya. Fairly new poster here. I just want to know if being unreasonable or not? I’m a stay at home mum to a 2 year old (entering part time work within the next month or so). He isn’t a great sleeper and very lively and full on (as a lot of toddlers are) Hes not talking at all yet and is really struggling to communicate so gets very frustrated very quickly so he needs an extra bit of care at the moment. Anyway what I’m Getting at here is DH thinks I just at home all day watching tv and chilling. He doesn’t seem to realise like a lot of other SAHM I do all the cooking, cleaning, night wakings with DS, and many other bits and pieces. He is a scaffolder but by his own admission sits in the van most of the day while his laborours work and he watches films. He just gets out to check their work and he gets taken to and from work and is normally in by 3pm. He lives on energy drinks and addicted to watching films and gaming. Baring in mind he’s 38 years old you’d think he’d have a bit more about him by now. He smokes heavily and just generally doesn't look after himself. I’m getting progressively more annoyed by him by the day. He doesn’t stop moaning about how tired he is even though he has a solid 8 hours minimum each night and barley does any work at work, always complaining about either head ache or back ache or both, and if I’m
Poorly he has has to be worse. Even during child labour he wouldn’t leave off about his aches and pains. If he doesn’t want to do something he will stage some slip or fall or some sort of incident so he doesn’t have to do it. He’s never done a night waking with our baby. I’m just at the end of my tether now. He says I can’t moan about him moaning or if I complain on the odd occasion I’m tired or poorly I just get told “well I work all day what do you do?” I left him the other day with DS for 3 hours and I had 4 very stressed phone calls in that time. To return home to learn he had palmed him off on my mum and he was playing ps5. So he now knows it’s not as easy as he thinks. He couldn’t even manage a few hours. Am I bring over the top or are my feelings justified?