To correct my name

[Rosegoldfan]

At work people constantly add an s on my name for no reason. As they do in every day life to be honest. It has never really bothered me.
However a list was sent round at work with an s on the end of my name. This time it actually pissed me off. It never has before. So I emailed the person and told them to correct it. Now I feel like a dick. The person will probably think I am a pedantic clown. I am cringing.

Example. My name is Wood not Woods.

Nope. Not unreasonable at all.
Though how you asked/told them to correct it might have a bearing in whether they now might think of you as a bit of a dick (not that you are).

Sometimes in the red mists, we can come across as very different people to the ones we are when we're nice and calm and can come across as decent and reasonable.

It's your name. You are not unreasonable.

I correct people about my name when they get it wrong. Not in a dickish face but with every instance, it gets bit less smiley

My partner has the opposite.
E.g woods , they put wood.

It's even on his badge which he is a professional in. Not good.

I have a name that people tend to shorten which irritates me. I once emailed someone back saying that I wasn't sure if the email was meant for me as that was not my name (it was about something random). I never got a response

YANBU at all - very discourteous of them to get your name wrong.

YANBU. It could genuinely lead to people contacting the wrong person, let alone the fact it's just plain rude to continually get it wrong.

@LookItsMeAgain

Nope. Not unreasonable at all. Though how you asked/told them to correct it might have a bearing in whether they now might think of you as a bit of a dick (not that you are).

Sometimes in the red mists, we can come across as very different people to the ones we are when we're nice and calm and can come across as decent and reasonable.

I said in the email. I am being picky here but there is no s. I said its a standing joke now with colleagues but can it be corrected. 🙈

If I'd sent out that list and you pointed out I'd spelled your name wrong, I would be rather embarrassed and would make a big effort not to get it wrong in future. Id send you a quick "oops, apology" email if I had time.

Everyone makes mistakes, what matters is how you deal with being corrected.

Nothing wrong with that.
Their issue, not yours.

You're not bring unreasonable, it's your name.

I have a name with a common shortening, which I don't use. The amount of people who automatically shorten it, even when I've just introduced myself is astounding! Clearly just not listening.

It’s ignorant not to use your real name. Keep telling them.

YANBU it is not your name therefore it is fine to correct it.

If it keeps happening stick an s on the end of everyone's first and second names in emails or in real life.

I'm always correcting people about the spelling of my name. I refused to wear a name badge once when my name was spelt wrong.

Are you Cliff Richard?

I get it too. Drives me crazy. It's rude and lazy. My name is right there in the email and at the bottom of it. It's not hard to get it right. I'm PA about it, I sometimes reply deliberately spelling theirs incorrectly

@Shade17

Are you Cliff Richard?

*Cliffs Richard

Well it means they could be getting your email wrong and you wouldn't be getting what they sent so it wasn't being a dick correcting them!

I’m exactly the same (similar name with no S on the end but with the S is common). Even had a formal letter sent home (to my old address!) with my name spelt wrong. I did raise it. It’s laziness not to check. Bet they’ll never make that mistake again

SIL spent nearly 30 years getting people to put an "S" on the end of her surname and now she is married, has the opposite problem and keeps trying to get people to take the "S" off.

I've recently got married and my new married name seems to stump people and they can't pronounce it. It drives me mad because no effort is made.
I really appreciate a few people have asked how is it pronounced. Everywhere ppl can't get it right. But colleagues should make an effort.
If people just read it phonetically it's easy to get.
At first I felt rude correcting ppl now I'm like sod it make the effort.

YANBU but it's best to do it consistently and calmly, otherwise one day someone will get the full impact of your pent up annoyance and then your response might seem disproportionate.

I'd probably add a random s to all their names, see how long you can keep it going before someone tries to pick you up on it.

My name is very rare and people constantly misspell it and/or pronounce it incorrectly. Most of the time I just correct the pronunciation, and ignore the odd incorrect spelling. However I always highlight when my name is misspelled at work, as after 3yrs my bosses and colleagues really should know. My name is only 5 letters long, so really not that hard.

As long as you weren't nasty about it, I think it's fine. If I'd made that mistake, I would want the person to tell me

I have the exact same issue and it pisses me off big time.

Pull them up on it every time. It's the only way they'll learn. And if they still do it, then start spelling their names wrong, and see how they like it.