To think friend is insensitive?

[MazeLost]

Me and friend used to be on the same wage, I got the impression she was embarrassed by it as it is low.

She then got promoted and then a new job and earn I’m guessing £10K more - she flaunts her wealth quite a bit.

Shes had a partner of 2 years, bought a house together recently and was moaning he doesn’t contribute much money wise (she pays for holidays and meals) and that even on his low wage he should be paying more.

She then told me his wage - I didn’t ask (it’s £3K more than me) and I just felt humiliated.

Sorry forgot to add that she definitely knows I’m on a very low wage as I’m still in the same job.

Your friend sounds quite money obsessed/orientated, money isn’t everything, talking about it all the time is quite boring & yes, insensitive since she knows you’re earning what she used to, can you just change the subject?

A little insensitive, probably. Thoughtless, definitely.

Tbh I'm shocked she told you what her partner earns. I'd go nuts if my DH did that, not that he would.

Hold your head up high and don't feel humiliated.

@LawnFever

Your friend sounds quite money obsessed/orientated, money isn’t everything, talking about it all the time is quite boring & yes, insensitive since she knows you’re earning what she used to, can you just change the subject?

It’s difficult to change the subject as all she does is talk about work. We met up to do some shopping together and she was on her phone the entire time saying how work are trying to reach her, she needs to call them, she has an email to send.

She didn’t listen to anything I said to the point where I just stopped mid-sentence and she never noticed.

@DramaAlpaca

A little insensitive, probably. Thoughtless, definitely.

Tbh I'm shocked she told you what her partner earns. I'd go nuts if my DH did that, not that he would.

Hold your head up high and don't feel humiliated.

Thank you, I’m trying to leave my current job, I had an interview today but I don’t feel hopeful

I don't think it's insensitive if she's talking about his contribution to their lifestyle. If she earns 20% more than him but is contributing 40% more to their living costs, for example, I can understand her point, but we don't know exactly how she expressed this.

If her issue is that his wage is too low, and she knows yours is lower, that's insensitive.
If her issue is that he doesn't contribute enough, as opposed to his actual earnings, she's not being insensitive.