Or is dh really rude

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I've name changed because I can't decide if this is me BU or if dh is actually rude af.

DH has been playfully whinging about our diet the last week or so. It's terrible tbf but we have 2 under 3 and both work so just live off takeaways and snacks.

He said he'd love a proper homecooked meal so after settling our dd I just cooked pasta, meatballs and an arrabiatte sauce all from scratch - except the pasta. He comes downstairs after watching the football and sees its nearly ready and says I'm just going to ring Bob. Bob is the assistant manager of his football team - to arrange their preseason details for the end of the month.

I serve it up. I eat half my tea and he is still on the phone. Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off? I'm exhausted but made the effort and he can't respect me enough to come down in a timely manner so we can enjoy it together.

He said sorry it overran but it I'm actually really angry about it.

If he's not prepared to cook (which is fine as different people share jobs out in ways that suit them) then he can stop complaining or just get himself a sandwich! YANBU.

I don't think a whining DH, if indeed he does/did, is the issue here- it is "living off takeways and snacks".

There are plenty of people with children who cook proper meals.

Why not be one of them, it's better, and cheaper.

Very rude. He moaned, you made an effort. I am sure you feel unappreciated now. You are absolutely justified in your feelings.

YANBU to be annoyed but it sounds delicious and he was probably looking forward to it so it could be that he genuinely thought it was going to be a quick call but the other person was telling him things that he couldn’t get away from.