I'm referring to my wife who can get very mean spirited and abusive. I can come home from work and if I mutter a negative word or some compmaint, she will come at me calling me dumb and yelling and throwing things to the floor. I then immediately feel like I am the one who instigated the trouble and don't belong in the family. Especially as she will also belittle my earnings in the same rant.
In those moments I want to leave because I feel like if I was a better man, then I would be accepted by her and wouldn't be copping it. So therefore I don't belong here because I'm causing conflict in the home just by coming home and having a voice :(
Any other men or women feel like that? Like they sometimes don't belong in their marriage or family?
BTW, I will then turn inward and immediately want to just look after myself and our 3 year old son. I hate that he witnesses some pretty terrible behaviour but I am concerned that he will see me as the trouble maker as the conflict starts when I get home sometimes (not all the time). I'm also wondering if it's mental illness because she can't handle any form of criticism or hear anyone complaining - no matter who they are...