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AIBU to think this is strange?

38 replies

snoopy2016 · 02/07/2021 12:06

We are a very much keep ourselves to ourselves family and don’t really speak to the neighbours etc we just are busy with work etc. I had to speak to one of the neighbours yesterday about something. We had quite a long conversation about various bits.

I just found it weird when he mentioned that he had noticed I’d changed jobs and shifts and even said oh I’ve never heard of your company what do they do? This information has come from the fact my company name is written on my hiviz and he knew where my daughter worked too. I just found it strange he said I bet your shift working from start time to finish time is a bit weird and he stated he preferred office hours.

I don’t know but I found it weird that they take so much notice of what we do, he also mentioned oh you like hiking we do that too I mean we’ve only been twice since COVID and they moved in a year ago and that really made me feel weird.

Do people actually take this much notice of their neighbours I couldn’t tell you much about anyone round here apart from maybe who has a dog and maybe where they work if they have a works van with the name on. I certainly couldn’t say what hours they work or any of their hobbies.

AIBU to think this is weird or am I weird and people take more notice than me?

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Frazzledd · 02/07/2021 22:01

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Frazzledd · 02/07/2021 22:04

Wrong thread! Blush....

Jellykat · 02/07/2021 22:08

Hes checking you out.. theyre swingers for sure Wink

JaceLancs · 02/07/2021 22:13

I think it depends where you live and neighbours lifestyles
I live in a small cul de sac of 12 houses in a small village
Most (75%) of my neighbours are retired and do enjoy watching the comings and going’s of others
It’s never been a problem! Feels quite secure - always people willing to take in a parcel - feed the cat or ask how you are
I’m used to neighbours saying things like ‘are you on holiday’ if my car hasn’t moved during office hours or commenting on a strange car around for a few days eg ooohh have you got visitors?
Depending on my mood/time/nosiness of enquiry - I may engage, answer or just prevaricate…….😂

JaceLancs · 02/07/2021 22:14

Even my Dcat spies on neighbours cat!!!

AIBU to think this is strange?
TedMullins · 02/07/2021 23:43

@Umbra

Ted Mullins.

I didn't say it was a crime. It's just nosy and creepy.

Nosy yes. I am nosy. I’m a journalist, it’s in my nature. I have to Google people all the time in my line of work so it seems normal to me. Creepy? I don’t agree. What’s creepy about being curious who someone is and what they’re like?
Unreasonabubble · 02/07/2021 23:59

No not creepy. My EXH could tell you all about the neighbours. He just has this personality that means he observes and absorbs everything everyone does. I am the complete opposite, unless someone volunteers information to me, I just do not ask. He will.

BackforGood · 03/07/2021 00:12

Whereas I think TedMullins is weird and, yes, creepy, doing background checks on a neighbour, your neighbour OP is just a normal neighbour who notices things and is interested in the world around him.

So yes, YABU

TedMullins · 03/07/2021 00:22

Seeing if someone has Facebook is hardly a background check jeez! Chill out. People have probably googled you too out of curiosity

Frazzledd · 03/07/2021 00:31

@TedMullins

Seeing if someone has Facebook is hardly a background check jeez! Chill out. People have probably googled you too out of curiosity
Only stalkers.....why Google someone you don't know? Or do you work for the Daily Mail, in which case it makes perfect sense 🤔👌
YesIReallyDoLikeRootBeer · 03/07/2021 00:54

I live near the end of a cul-de-sac. The comings and goings keep me quite entertained. The house across from me has some kind of family squabble going on and I make up my own ideas of what it must be. DH gets mad when I share my thoughts with him, but I dont care LOL. I do also wonder why my NDN has several deliveries daily from Amazon. And a couple years ago I'm pretty sure someone at the end of the cul-de-sac was dealing drugs as cars would drive down to their house all night long but would only be there for a couple minutes and then leave. Watching the neighbors is entertaining. Oh, and I dont care if they may be watching us and making up their own theories of our lives haha.

TedMullins · 03/07/2021 15:08

What exactly do you think social media is? It’s not secret. If you have a profile on there anyone can look you up, you can change your privacy settings to control what they see but if you have a profile it’s likely it can be found. I occasionally look up people I went to school with or exes to see what they’re upto, or work colleagues, anyone I feel nosy about. I don’t think that’s weird it’s just curiosity!

AnUnoriginalUsername · 03/07/2021 15:13

I think we're like you, don't know a thing about what's going off on our street. There's been a housefire and a death in the middle of the road while we've been home and we had no idea. But the few times we have spoken to neighbours they all know alot about everyone so I think it's more common to pay attention than not.

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