Aibu to think DH is being unappreciative?

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I take a day off work a week to look after our preschooler and DC1 (who’s at primary school). Its a busy day playgroup,crafts, school run, park then a sports class for older DC. A few times at 7pm I’ve said to DH ‘I’m really tired as I’ve had the kids all day can you take over now?’. He always makes a point of saying ‘No you haven’t. DC1 has been at school.’. He’s just said it to me again and I got really angry at him and told him he sounds unappreciative of what I’m doing for the family. Being part-time actually makes it very difficult at work in my current job, as well as the fact that both my kids are very high energy so it is a non-stop day. DH says he is just stating the facts. I say in the context of what I’ve just said it’s not a nice comment to keep making to your wife AIBU?

Saturday away here you go! Leave early, call home at 7pm and say cheerfully it’s about now I usually ask for help on Thursday (or whenever) and you tell me no you’re too special and important and parenting them is a breeze anyway, just wanted to remind you of that! Home tomorrow…. Maybe.

He’s a twat.

Either actually list the things you've done or tell him next week you'll go into work and catchup on everything you usually cram into less days and he can do what you usually do.

I’m more tired after a day with my DC than at work despite having quite a busy stressful job just because I rarely get to sit down for long

@Aquamarine1029

He sounds like a selfish prick. What exactly is he good for?

Part time working is often harden on women if you are rushing to do all the running around with children after school.

I know of several women who said being in work all day was much easier and they would rather be in it.
They often never ate as they worked 6 hours staight and then rushed to pick up.

He sounds like a right twat that needs to spend some time with his children getting them to activities etc.

You could go off someone like that VERY quickly I imagine 🙄

If you had two children in secondary school all day then he'd have a point. The faff of dropping one child at primary means that it's no easier than just having both the entire day. I'd definitely go out for the day Saturday, but not before booking both DC into a swim session at 9am, fun climb at 11 (requiring parental assistance obviously) and pottery painting at 3pm. Also promise them that Daddy will take them to the swings on the way home. That way he can't sit around the house with CBBCon and claim it's a piece of cake.

@SaltAndVinegarSandwiches

If you had two children in secondary school all day then he'd have a point. The faff of dropping one child at primary means that it's no easier than just having both the entire day. I'd definitely go out for the day Saturday, but not before booking both DC into a swim session at 9am, fun climb at 11 (requiring parental assistance obviously) and pottery painting at 3pm. Also promise them that Daddy will take them to the swings on the way home. That way he can't sit around the house with CBBCon and claim it's a piece of cake.

This is the type of post I love.👏👏👏

OP, do this.

I used to bring my children out to loads of activities bla bla bla, wrecking.

Husband would bring them to one activity like swimming and tell me it was the hardest part of the week😁.

Please do as @SaltAndVinegarSandwiches
suggests, please, please!

Thanks everyone some great points on here about not asking for permission that it’s been good for me to think about.

I’m thinking I need to book a few Saturdays. Might even do an overnight stay as there’s relatives who live far away that are due a visit. I love @SaltAndVinegarSandwiches idea 😂 I’ll be sure to do that. Even better if I can plan it for a weekend when MIL is away so he can’t drop them off there.