'And the most important thing'.... AIBU to find this annoying

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Light hearted (but I am mildly annoyed and want to check I'm not being irrational :) )

Spent 20 minutes making fresh dinner tonight, pittas, fresh salad, lots of bits etc after a busy day with a rowdy toddler, I'm feeling frayed getting everything sorted and on the table while DH is with toddler out of the way. So before we sit down, I'm just getting the last bits on the table and DH makes a grand gesture of walking over to cupboard, fetching the chilli sauce and declaring 'And the most important thing!'...

AIBU to feel slighted by this? I can't put my finger on the word, I wouldn't say ungrateful but I definitely felt like 'ok, great so me making a fresh meal is ok and spending 20 mins in kitchen is a small effort but this additive heaven in a bottle is the really special part of this dinner'...

I know 100% he didn't mean it like this, I know if I questioned him he would absolutely be appreciative, he is and we have a good relationship but this comment really got my back up!

AIBU? Am I being tetchy after a long and shitty day or is this in fact an annoying this to say to someone who has just made you dinner.

Also, I was so a) wiped out b) dumbfounded I just repeated what he said back to me to him with zero expression or emotion. I am so tired, I've turned to Mumsnet, eek haha

zingdrama it’s delicious

You're over reacting because you're tired. You chucked a few "bits" on the table. Hardly a major effort

I think it's because I had done everything, cleaned kitchen as I went along and dining table, play doh off floor, toys away, put out cutlery, plates, prepared everything so we could have a nice meal at the table and he just came in and got a sauce bottle out. It felt like if he'd mown the lawn and I'd just trimmed a little bit of grass and been like 'there's the final touch'.....
I think he meant to say something like 'ooo, you can't have falafel without Chilli sauce', which would have been normal, I think it was the over theatrical performance of it that irritated me.

Anyway, way too invested in this now, it's fine, I'm over it, toddler is in bed, I'm unwinding and enjoying the peace! I'll live to fight another day lol.

You're overreacting. I would overreact in the exact same way though 🤷‍♀️

@ViceLikeBlip yes, you know how it is

@LJAKS

In the kindest way, you're overreacting. Blame it on the heat!

Yep this.

But we all do it!

You're over thinking.

Oh yes a definite over reaction and one I would totally make too. 😁 "I mean, I'd think the most important thing is the FOOD I spent ages preparing, not some shitty sauce but whatever" roll eyes..sulk... oops 😂 yes Im an over-reacter too.

Ah yes, praising the easy bit, or their tiny contribution.
My feedlings know this and will rave about the the bloody lasagne sheets, not the beautifully crafted ragu or silky bechamel.