First time poster, long time watcher.
I met my DH when we were teenagers, we had our first child soon after we met. 9 years later we have 3 children. He works while I'm a stay at home mom, at home with the little 2.
I've struggled with PND afted all 3 babes and I've been working hard to get better and have therapy every other week but it's still difficult.
Anyway things between me and DH have been rocky for a long time but we've still just been going with the flow and plodding through it.
Lately he's been drinking, almost every night after work. It puts even more distance between us, as I don't drink.
He doesn't see an issue with drinking so much and thinks I'm just nagging at him.
But it isn't just that, we don't get along and have nothing in common anymore. We met as teenagers and I know that had we met as adults we would not be interested in one another.
We haven't had sex in over 6 months and I have no desire too. We argue about stupid stuff or just don't talk at all. I feel irritated by everything he does which is know is terrible.
I'm not sure what to do because essentially he's a good man and a good dad.
I think I may be using the drinking as an excuse to want out. Things just feel so messy right now and I have no clue what I'm doing.
I've suggested that we take a break and he is just so against it although I can't understand why because neither of us are truly happy. My head is all over the place. He says it wouldn't work to be separated because I wouldn't be able to pay rent as only he has an income. Which I guess is true. The youngest 2 are still little and need me at home.
Any advice would be truly appreciated.