WIBU to spend the voucher on myself?

[Balbusso]

So my DP came across a gift voucher he got from one of his relatives for Christmas a few years ago. Expiry June 2021 so today was the last day it was valid till. He had used it previously in Currys or somewhere like that and had £16 left on it.

He asked me to go ahead and spend it on something. He quite liked the idea of a nice photo frame so we could put a picture of us inside. The gift voucher can be spent on the John Lewis website so had a nose on there.

Saw a nice silver plated photo frame £16 - great. Trouble is the voucher has to be used like a prepaid debit card. You can't use the voucher for some of it and pay the rest by card. It had to be the full amount. So with P&P, that frame wasn't an option. I had another look but didn't see any others that looked as nice. Had a look for some other stuff too, ornaments etc but for £16 you're kind of limited on the JL website.

Anyway I came across a little tealight lantern which I thought would look nice on our table outside. £10 for the lantern, £4 on some tealights, £2 P&P. Jobs a good 'un. Used the voucher for those, then went back and bought the photo frame separately.

DP is a bit miffed because the frame "wasn't bought with the relatives money", and I basically used the voucher on myself. Which is true in a way - I like my candles and stuff. But it was either that, or buy a cheaper not so nice frame, or just lose the voucher completely. 🤷‍♀️

WIBU?

he sounds very petty

Tell him if he was that bothered he would have spent it before. And done it himself.

What a fuss over nothing, you got what you both wanted you saw something you wanted and got that as well.

Does he always get ‘a bit miffed’ by such pathetic nonsense? Because he needs to get a fucking grip if he does. The money was spent, you both got something you wanted. Tell him to spend it properly himself next time if he wants to be so choosy.

Why is he being so petty? That would really annoy me. If he wants to be so picky then he can take charge of the matter next time

Is he always that whiny?

I don't think he's deliberately being petty. He's just a bit strange about this sort of thing.

He likes to proudly proclaim (at the age of 40) that he still has the £1500 his gran gave him when he was 18. Despite me pointing out "well no, you put it in your bank account, so now it's mixed up with the rest of the money so not technically your gran's anymore"

And yes definitely has no right to complain after thrusting the voucher at me 6 hours before it expires when I've been at work all day and really can't be arsed trawling through looking for The Perfect Frame

He actually sounds a bit dim. Sorry. And childlike. I can't believe he's 40. Are you attracted to him? Sorry, not the point of thread.

What a weird POV he has. Is he always this rigid in his thinking? How has he managed to reach middle age with this mindset?

Your reasoning is sound - the frame couldn’t be purchased with the gift card. It was either do what you did, or no frame at all. Also you didn’t just spend money on yourself, the frame has been paid for out of your own pocket

Yes he has always been rigid in his thinking when it comes to things like this.

I'm surprised actually, I was expecting the responses to be "Yabu - it wasn't your voucher to spend"

You spent the voucher yes, but also bought the thing requested out of your own pocket. It evens out and all is good in the world

I so wish I had the space in my brain to believe what your husband does. That's extraordinary. If he gets a BOGOF deal does he know which one is the free item? Maybe if you'd bought the voucher off him first he would have been happy? 😅

If I were your DH, this is not something I would get worked up over. Particularly if I had had the voucher for years, and not bothered to spend it. Couldn't he pretend the photo frame was bought with the gift voucher if it worries him that much?

Jesus Christ, it must be exhausting living with people like this!