to be peed off about this?

[flicky]

A friend of mine (let's call her T)was over today and we were talking about our HV.

T doesn't like the HV but when I said I thought she was ok and that she has never said anything to piss me off,My 'friend' replies

'Oh no,she's over you like flies on shit because you breastfeed'

Such is my sense of humour I thought this quite funny,and kinda chuckled a bit but now I feel a tad annoyed.

What's with the 'shit' analogy? This T has a habit of slipping in a nasty comment sometimes and I am never sure if it is said with an agenda or if she just being tactless.

Anyway,it's pissed me off this evening.

Aibu?

YABU

YABU - it's only an expression. I blame your hormones

I don't know - can't quite but my finger on it but it does seem a bit of a passive aggressive statement.

YANBU - marginally

Not a very attractive turn of phrase, but I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

Just try to ignore it.

I think this bit "What's with the 'shit' analogy? This T has a habit of slipping in a nasty comment sometimes and I am never sure if it is said with an agenda or if she just being tactless."....is significant

I feel less annoyed about it this morning. But she does have a tendency to say things that are either incredibly ill-thoughtout or just blardy rude.

Last year she was talking about plans she had for a hol in Australia,4 weeks all in travelling around etc and I was suitably impressed,asked loads of questions and generally was positive. When I said we were going to Center Parcs for 4 days she was very off. I mean,I know CP is good but it hardly compares to a trip to Oz so I don't know why she was being funny about it.

She does this quite often,but I tend to ignore it as I do like her,she can be very funny and she is ds's best friend's Mum,so I see her regularly.

Anyway,I am over it,except that I am trying to think of ways to use it myself...like,
'oh T,that was a lovely meal.I was all over it like a fly on...'

I don't think you're b entirely u, she could have said 'a bee round honey' but better to have kept her bitterness to herself anyway

yabu. It's just a statement, first thing she thought of to say perhaps.

and maybe she feels hv got at her if she decided not to/was unable to breastfeed.

A lot of people who ff do feel judged esp by professionals.

She did bf,wannabe,she breastfed very successfully for 9 months.

Her 'baby' is now 5 my little one is a lot younger. (We both have ds's the same age,that's how we are friends)

Feeling judged by professionals and reacting to it,I can understand,it has happened to most people,I would say!

Her motivation for using the fly/shit analogy I found harder to understand. I don't think it is an expression I would use in conversation with a friend unless I had an agenda. Not even as a joke,tbh. I might enjoy imagining ways to use it,but I wouldn't do it.

YABU, is only an expression. She is cross with HV not you. Not everyone has great social skills (I am guilty of badly wording things at time.. often on mumsnet )

It's an ungly turn of phrase, certainly. But that's not why you are and that's why yabu.

ungly???!!! typo - ugly of course!