To feel a. Humiliated by this

[Annewithaneee]

Had a catch up with w a direct colleague, normally we do get on but he was asking why things were the way they were and I felt a bit under pressure to explain what I had done.

He was on camera and when I was talking (prob sounding quite stressed) he laughed and made a gesture with his hands that implied I was talking too much? Kind of opening and shutting his hands, felt quite dismissive. He explained it away by saying his dog was barking so was trying to shut him up but it’s annoyed me a bit! Aibu? Has made me doubt my workplace communication etc...

@girl71 have you read my post?!

@Annewithaneee yes, i have and yr updates.

You now say he was gesturing not only to his dog but, now his children. The hand duck rabbit gesture is neither of which you do to yr children or yr dog. He meant it for you. You were waffling.

I have read and understood all yr posts.

Ok thanks tbf I probably was rabbiting!! Noted for next time

Impossible to know for sure what was meant by it and who it was directed at. If you’re new can you ask for some feedback to see how you’re getting on? Whether he was right or wrong, you won’t benefit from dwelling on it.

How bloody rude of him. I think it says more about him than it does about you, OP.

I’ve asked for feedback and been told all positive but yeah good point. I won’t dwell on it and as I say, wasn’t going on per se, more trying to explain what i had done. Probably I get a bit defensive and should just be quiet while he looks at it or offer to walk through - rather than a garbled mix of the two!

Maybe he was gesturing that he was on a call and the person was speaking?! I would probably do similar if my kids unintentionally wandered in to the room during a work call and I didn't want to interrupt the speaker so would just mime it. Similar to the weird and wonderful hand gestures that drivers have made up to try and tell other drivers their intention.

You didn't answer whether you'd challenged him and that's why he explained. Or did he just volunteer an explanation?

Tbh I can imagine a scenario where he was annoyed with noisy kids and was signalling to you 'flippin' kids, never shut up eh?' or something like that.

I wouldn't do that sort of gesture to my dog as he would have no clue what I meant. But after your update I'd say it could easily be at a child. My kids would absolutely understand that I was talking to someone and needed some quiet. I do it to my OH too!
Perhaps you are conscious that you were nervously talking on which is leading you to assume he was gesturing at you.