To feel resentment towards my husband?

[jrk72]

Bit of a back story..
DH and I have been married almost two years and together since we were 18. When I was 21 I fell pregnant while at uni studying to be a teacher. Obviously it wasn't planned but we decided to keep the baby and I dropped out of uni and got a big standard job and we now have a very delightful DC who is nearly 5 and also a 3 month old DC. (Second pregnancy was planned).
I love my children more than anything and I don't for one second regret my decision to have either of them.
However recently everything DH does seems to be getting on my nerves.
He has recently had a promotion at work and earns a very good salary to say we're still quite young. He absolutely loves his job (most days) and is working in the field he has always wanted to.
I however have just worked in standard admin roles since having DC1 (now on mat leave) Due to needing part time work because of childcare etc. I feel like all I'm good for is emptying the washing basket!
I am currently breastfeeding our baby so she is clung to me 24/7, I haven't had my hair done in well over a year, none of my clothes fit thanks to 2 stone pregnancy weight gain. I feel frumpy and gross. He made a jokey comment tonight about me always smelling of baby sick.
I honestly don't think he's a mean person at all but it just got to me.
He went to the barbers after work tonight as we're going on a uk holiday next week. Whereas I haven't washed my hair in almost a week. He goes where he wants when he wants.
I just feel like I've sacrificed so much for our children, my life, my body, my time, my career. He doesn't seem to have had to give up much at all and it's starting to grate on me
Women just get the short straw don't they!
Aibu for feeling like this?

Your youngest is 3 months - at that stage there's little you time and you're probably really tired too.

But is your dh doing enough? Can't he look after the dc while you get your hair done? You should have clothes that make you feel good regardless of weight. I'm a size 20 and still look after my appearance.

Think about the long term and what career you'd like to pursue. It sounds like you're young so there will be time for you to focus on your career. You do need to make sure dh is on the same page and understands you still have ambition even if you're not acting on it immediately.

YANBU at all but you need to speak up and tell him to pull his weight more. If you want to book a hair appt, book one at the weekend or when he’s off work, and he looks after both DC whilst you do this. Housework needs to be shared equally, especially as you have a very young baby. Weekdays fair enough if he is working out of the home, but weekends he needs to step up more, whether with chores or childcare time.

In the long term, look at getting your career back to where you want it to be. Why are you part time and he isn’t?