To cut off from my friend of 14 years

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My friend hasn't made an effort with me for near enough two years. I looked back on messages and it's always me contacting her, and the last message we had was her cancelling on me to meet up and me saying to contact me when she was free as I remember at the time thinking I've asked you enough now to meet up. She never did.

I've tried to be understanding as she had a baby three years ago, and I asked so many times to meet her child. I still haven't but I see on Facebook she meets with other friends with her child and I did try.

I don't really get why this has happened, guess people can just drift apart. She didn't come to my wedding either.

Sounds ridiculous but I want to delete her from fb eben though I've known her for near enough 14 years as it makes me sad seeing her posts with friends yet she doesn't make the effort with me. It's got to a point that I feel embarrassed to ask her to meet again.

I'm fed up of feeling crap so want to just cut ties now.

AIBU to cut her out my life?

Cut her out. Focus on other friends. She clearly has time for others, can't believe she had a baby 3 years ago and you haven't met them yet!! She's no friend

At least mute her on Facebook so you don’t see the posts. Don’t bother to contact her again.

Sadly it Looks like she’s already ghosted you

Do it.I ended a 15 Yr friendship for the same reasons.

She's already ghosted you, she's not going to be upset if you unfriend her now.

She has already ended it, so just delete her from FB

Sounds like she has given you enough hints , she's just not that into you.

Move on.

I suspect some of my friends feel like this about me. I’m just overwhelmed by life all the time and find it hard to socialise with people. Part of it is trying to organise it which just feels overwhelming, trying to find a date/time suitable for me, family and friend. Part of it is that there are lots of difficulties in my life I don’t want to talk about. So I’m hiding away, even though I’d love nothing more than to see some real friends.

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I suspect some of my friends feel like this about me. I’m just overwhelmed by life all the time and find it hard to socialise with people. Part of it is trying to organise it which just feels overwhelming, trying to find a date/time suitable for me, family and friend. Part of it is that there are lots of difficulties in my life I don’t want to talk about. So I’m hiding away, even though I’d love nothing more than to see some real friends.

When things are difficult there are only some people you will want to see.

I have been feeling like this a bit since a sudden bereavement.
Just not able for only my closest and dearest friends who understand if I am just not up to meeting.

I'm so sorry things are so hard for you.

I know how you feel, OP, and it hurts. I'm sorry. You deserve better than her.

Thank you @billy1966. Every day I think I’ll return that message, set up that meet up, organise play dates and every day it feels too much. I am so sorry for your loss .

She didn't come to my wedding either.

I would say that this 🤞🏻 along with you not meeting her now 3yo would indicate that she has already checked out of the friendship. So you don't really need to do anything. Just move on. It's hard when you've been friends ages.

Unfollow and mute on Facebook as a first step and then can always unfriend and block later. Also restrict your profile for her so she can’t see anything that you post.

OP she’s not worth any more of your time.

Trouble is, you don't know what is going on in someone else's life and you also do not know if they value the friendship in the same way as you do.

Have you tried asking her why?