Writing on here isn't really my kind of thing, I love reading the threads and lurking in the background however tonight something happened again that's really got to me.
Background for context my DP shares a house with his ex and their kids (this part isn't up for discussion).
I normally see him on a monday night and he stays over however last night he had to work late. He asked me last Sunday if we could swap the Monday night for tonight, I said yes.
So yesterday he rang me from work said he was going to be staying at mine anyway (he'd decided) and was going to book Tuesday off so that he could take me to lunch and we could have a leisurely lay in, go get some lunch and spend the day together. I said ok does that mean I see you two nights? Umm no... his ex was going out and he needed to be home for the kids (I was ok with this as they share kids so its only fair he takes his turn). I asked him if he needed to be back for normal time and he said no so long as he was home for when she went out it would be fine.
Fast forward to today, lovely lay in, driving to pub for lunch and I broached the subject of what time he needed to be back for... Oh normal time will be fine, my heartsank but I held it together but I know I was definitely quiet for the rest of the afternoon and I emotionally took a step back.
So AIBU...
Yes YABU if I shouldn't feel that he keeps changing the goal posts they are his kids after all and they have a routine etc
No YANBU actually I was right to allow myself to feel a bit hurt, he should do what he promises
Thanks for reading 