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To take a years salary payout with no future plans (single parent)

83 replies

birkenstuck · 29/06/2021 19:22

I'll try to be brief. Difficult. Am a single parent with no real other support. What I earn pays for me and my two children. Mortgage. Quite a bit of equity. No really significant savings.

Fed up at work. Pays well. Need new challenge. Been there a long time. Getting older. Worried that if I stay much longer it's going to get more difficult to move on as I'll be (seen as...and might actually be) institutionalised. Nowhere to go in my current company.

Ive been stuck in a way as am a little out of the way geographically... so the job I have is really well paid and rare where I am. My children are in school a few more years and I won't move them. Not an option. I had accepted I'd be a little stuck before.

If I take a package being offered (to everyone, if I don't take it my job isn't actually on the line, they just need a certain amount to go... and are almost there in terms of numbers) I would get about a years take home pay.

So. Tempted. A lot of the jobs in my field are starting to become remote. Things have changed. I think I'm pretty employable. I think I'd get a job after taking the package.

So. Aibu to jump. Have a years safety net. Assume I'll get something in that year.

Or am I being irresponsible and foolish. Too risky. Would any gap just look awful to employers?

Obviously the sensible thing to do would be to get another job first. But if I do that I won't get the redundancy.

I could progress the refund cat (would take three months to sort) and in the meantime apply for other roles... so no gap?

Anyone done similar? Anyone regretted it? Anyone taken the plunge and moved on successfully with a little nest egg in the bank?!

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SingingInTheShithouse · 30/06/2021 13:56

As my dear old Nana always said...

Never regret what you've done, only what you didn't do

Jump!

CheeseIsATypeOfMeat · 30/06/2021 13:59

Just want to add my opinion here...

DO IT. DO IT. DO IT!!

BookWorm45 · 30/06/2021 14:01

Take VR. When I interview people, I never see it as a negative when they have redundancy in their reasons for leaving last job.

tallduckandhandsome · 30/06/2021 14:03

I would take it! Sounds like a window is opening for you...

FFSFFSFFS · 30/06/2021 14:04

DO IT

Gerwurtztraminer · 30/06/2021 14:09

Doesn't sound like many downsides. Good package. More job opportunities coming up. Long period of time to find something else. Contract and freelancing jobs available if perm jobs take a bit longer. Just get all the package in writing before agreeing to anything. Agree with suggestion to ask for some careers coaching sessions in addition to the payout.

I've taken VR twice and also left jobs with no redundancy and no other job lined up just because was fed up and needed a change and a rest. Yes sometimes there were some gaps between jobs and job hunting can be a drudge, I had to live off savings at times but no regrets and it was worth it.

On your cv, just put 'career break' to cover the period not working. Reason for leaving is VR or just redundancy. It's no longer got any stigma attached to be made redundant.

Triffid1 · 30/06/2021 14:18

Absolutely do it. And a couple of practical points:

With a year's costs in the bag, you have time to review options. Eg, if finding a new role is a bit harder than you'd hoped, you can supplement the income you've got from the redundancy by taking on some lower paid work in the short term.

Similarly, if there are options for contracting, this is a great way to make the money last. eg you take on a three month contract (probably better paid than normal work) and that then extends the amount of time you have to find the better job.

You also make the point that you have a fair bit of equity in your house, so worst case, at some point you could remortgage to lower your mortgage payments if you needed to tighten your belt for a while.

Mustreadabook · 30/06/2021 14:18

I don’t think it would look bad. I’d tell them there were no more challenges at your previous place that’s why you took it. Especially since you have been there a long time. Though is you sector in general going through hard times? As in less jobs in total.

MsMarch · 30/06/2021 14:21

Definitely take it. A year is plenty of time to find work or to find ways to stretch your income. On your CV, I don't think it's a huge issue either, especially as you were with the previous firm for a long time. It's easy to say that you wanted a new challenge, Covid appeared to have created opportunities for you to carry on in your field even though you live away from where many of the jobs are, and so you were happy to take a voluntary package and use the time to look around.

It would be different if your CV was made up of lots of short term roles.

LadyGnome · 30/06/2021 14:41

I did it. I wanted to move into contracting rather than having a permanent role so I took the money and ran. I had the summer off with the DC then found my first contracting role. I’ve worked continuously since and I am earning more. I’m 51. I am open about taking VR as I wanted to move into contracting. I was asked for vetting purposes to show how I supported myself during that summer, the lump sum payment was sufficient evidence.

timeisnotaline · 30/06/2021 14:44

Do it! Start looking for jobs right now, so you can say in interviews these are the reasons I was looking to move on, then they offered ridiculously generous redundancies so i took one.

Harriedharriet · 30/06/2021 14:51

It is very hard to get a lump sum together so I think take the money.
Re future employers - say just that. You took the lump sum offered. Nobody would second guess that.
Seems you are good at what you do and online possibilities are there so it will move for you.
Sounds really good to me op.

birkenstuck · 30/06/2021 18:06

Thank you for all of the encouragement. I'm poised. Maybe. I think. I hope they say yes. They did before. I feel excited and nervous.

Your stories are amazing Smile

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birkenstuck · 30/06/2021 18:07

@LadyGnome

I did it. I wanted to move into contracting rather than having a permanent role so I took the money and ran. I had the summer off with the DC then found my first contracting role. I’ve worked continuously since and I am earning more. I’m 51. I am open about taking VR as I wanted to move into contracting. I was asked for vetting purposes to show how I supported myself during that summer, the lump sum payment was sufficient evidence.
This is super encouraging. Happy it worked out for youSmile and it sounds fairly similar to my situ!
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birkenstuck · 30/06/2021 18:08

@MsMarch

Definitely take it. A year is plenty of time to find work or to find ways to stretch your income. On your CV, I don't think it's a huge issue either, especially as you were with the previous firm for a long time. It's easy to say that you wanted a new challenge, Covid appeared to have created opportunities for you to carry on in your field even though you live away from where many of the jobs are, and so you were happy to take a voluntary package and use the time to look around.

It would be different if your CV was made up of lots of short term roles.

I thought this. I've been with both of my last two employer last 8-10 years in total albeit in two roles in each of two companies. But yes, I'd be honest I think! Smile
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birkenstuck · 30/06/2021 18:09

@Gerwurtztraminer

Doesn't sound like many downsides. Good package. More job opportunities coming up. Long period of time to find something else. Contract and freelancing jobs available if perm jobs take a bit longer. Just get all the package in writing before agreeing to anything. Agree with suggestion to ask for some careers coaching sessions in addition to the payout.

I've taken VR twice and also left jobs with no redundancy and no other job lined up just because was fed up and needed a change and a rest. Yes sometimes there were some gaps between jobs and job hunting can be a drudge, I had to live off savings at times but no regrets and it was worth it.

On your cv, just put 'career break' to cover the period not working. Reason for leaving is VR or just redundancy. It's no longer got any stigma attached to be made redundant.

You're a pro at this! Smile amazing and thank you x
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birkenstuck · 03/07/2021 10:48

Update

They're thinking about it. Gutted. Said before when I mooted a mild interest that they'd support me to make it happen. Not sure what's changed. I'll find out next week.

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Cowbells · 03/07/2021 10:55

@birkenstuck

Oh this is encouraging. Thank you. I am a bit of a risk taker. So my heart is saying do it. If I didn't have the children I wouldn't think twice. But... what if nothing turns up? And I'm fairly "niche" so not sure, even though I'd be open to it, I'd be able to talk myself into a stopgap job.

How has anyone "dealt" with taking vr on their cv... that's assuming I hadn't got another role before leaving? Does it always look dodgy? Can you be honest?

"They offered a years salary, I needed a new challenge, and thought why not!"?

Is it a role where you could do consultancy work from home? Or come back to work for them PT as a freelancer? Just to fill the gap in your employment history.

I'd definitely get onto LinkedIn and put feelers out as to what is happening in your career area in other companies, and look on Indeed too which I have found brilliant at filtering really competitive jobs at reasonably high levels. Can you start applying now before you make your decision, just to test the waters?

Do you have an appealing and financially secure plan B if you don't get picked up by a good employer within a year (steady supply of freelance clients, move to a cheaper area locally to release some capital etc.)

I am massively more risk averse since having DC because their stability and happiness is contingent on my financial security.

birkenstuck · 06/09/2021 11:41

Just an update. They have said yes! Yikes. Leave in 4 months. Now need a plan. Thanks for all of the encouraging comments, made me feel braver than I would have done Smile

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PlanDeRaccordement · 06/09/2021 11:50

I’d take it. With all the people put out of work due to Covid a gap in employment isn’t as big a deal as it was pre-pandemic. We do however like seeing that an applicant is working on a new qualification of some sort while between jobs. It shows initiative and work ethic.

Pinkdelight3 · 06/09/2021 12:33

I wouldn't do it in your shoes, not with the inflexibility about living out of the way but refusing to move because of the schools. Those parameters are understandable but still limiting unless there really is a wealth of remote working opportunities to choose from (in which case, wouldn't you have applied for them already?). It's great being a risk-taker, but you have to be up for taking the leap. Much harder to balance risk-taking with big responsibilities like needing to stay put. So no, in your situation, I would only go with another job in place. But lots of people are saying otherwise, so suspect you'll go for it and am just adding this for balance.

Pinkdelight3 · 06/09/2021 12:34

(And only just realised this is an old-ish thread so the deed is done! In which case - loads of luck! Hope it pays off and all goes very happily)

JackieCollinshasnoauthority · 06/09/2021 12:36

So glad you've decided to refund the cat. Best of luck!

JustLyra · 06/09/2021 12:55

If anyone questions the voluntary aspect of the redundancy then the fact your current employers have made people redundant for a second time is a very good reason for being proactive and looking for a someone in a better position where you can grow etc

BeaBeaBuzz · 06/09/2021 13:29

Well done OP! Congratulations on your new chapter

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