Loooong back story but I will try and keep it short. Have been divorced for 10 years, one daughter who turns 18 this week. Ex was abusive and controlling and it took me a long time after I left him to fully break away as he continued to try and control me, including my finances. One example was him trying to tell me what I should do with my house when I remarried.
DD has gone no contact with him for a number of reasons. He treated her like a child and also tried to control her. Told her he was 'disappointed in her' for not wanting to keep to agreed contact days when she got older. Tried to dictate university choices and courses. She saw him briefly recently and I think he has seen that as an 'in' to get back in her life.
School have just released some marks which will go towards A level grades. They're lower than was expected of her, main reason being I had to get her some counseling to get her to break away from her dad's controlling ways. School know about this.
So this morning I get an email from ex (have blocked all other means of comms) saying 'oh I think she's going to be disappointed with her grades - what we can do about it and what can we do to support her?' I'm like WTF, you've hardly been supporting her for the last 12 months so why are you suddenly concerned?
AIBU to tell him to do one and that I don't ever want to communicate with him again given our daughter is now an adult?