Stomach bug

[Dominikaa]

So here is the thing...we've visited friends sat/sun. Sunday night DH, DD & I have a stomach bug- spending the whole night throwing up ( had to take 2 days off from work because of that only today I start feeling normal) so I am texting friends we've spent weekend together in the morning asking them if they ok ( i thought it might be food related as we've eaten out) and they're replying saying they're fine..

The guy says on the chat 'that's strange' then his wife says 'we had ours [the bug] last week'... and from the conversation I had with her I am guessing they had the bug on friday as she said to me lil one was off nursery on friday as she was sick. We arrived on saturday so barely 24h after they had it ( they also wanted to take us to their friends bday party on sat...) I am so disappointed they didn't tell us and not sure if I should say something to them or simply avoid seeing them again...What do you guys reckon?

No you are definitely not being unreasonable! I would have to say something. I would probably say something like ‘ the 48 hour rule exists for a reason and it’s upsetting to be have been so ill when it was so avoidable. Next time please let me know if you’re been unwell so I can Decide for myself if we want to risk meeting up’

A friend once came to stay mid sick bug, assuming their dc was better . One of them vomited all over my coir rug then we all caught it. I was furious but

…but didn’t get angry with her as she was suitably apologetic

Argggghh, this annoys me SO much. No YANBU - I'm so sorry for you and so cross with your friends on their behalf. Not sure what I would say though. Probably what @PlumpCushion recommended or along those lines.

Is her name Mary? On MN today there's one Typhoid Mary who changed her child's diaper on a cafe table and now your post? How terrible to invite you over and not call and cancel or postpone it.

I would say something. It's rude and thoughtless at best.

I would be livid, so inconsiderate of them. What if you didn’t get sick pay, and it really impacted your budget. I’d have to say something.

It’s really thoughtless and rude.

I remember years ago a relative bought her baby to a family party. It was the first time a big chunk of our extended family had seen the child as we all live quite far away from each other. We all cooed and had cuddles etc.

A few days later my mother and I became very ill with a norovirus type bug. Literally non stop vomiting and lying on the landing between the bathroom and the bedroom because it was too much energy to go back and forth. It turned out quite a few relatives had the same thing. When it got back to the relative, she sheepishly confided that her baby had been unwell a few days before but she didn’t want to cancel attending the party as she wanted everyone to meet her baby.

It’s really reckless behaviour and I think it’s selfish. So I’d say something.

I’d be fuming in your position. They obviously knew they were in the wrong as otherwise surely it would have come up during the weekend.

“What have you all been up to recently?”
“Oh we all spent the last week with an awful stomach bug”

I sent them a message... they're now saying its been 3 weeks ago ( although they clearly said earlier in the chat its been last week) and they had food poisoning and not stomach bug. of course they will say that now

Selfish bastards. Or not so selfish, they wanted to share their illness with you.......they wouldn't remain my friends thats for sure.