Netflix SEX LIFE opinions make and female please (spoilers)

[Cherryberrybonbon]

So I’ve just watched Sex Life on Netflix, totally binge watched, I’d ignore reviews and just watch and make your own opinion! I thought it was brilliant, wished the ending hadn’t have been so sudden though.

The trouble starts for her marriage when her husband reads her sexually graphic journal that she keeps on HER laptop. So feeling like he doesn’t compare he decided to up his game and as most people would, it makes him feel sick to think of his wife in another life and it all starts to go down hill with the wife holding the blame and trying to keep her life together whilst her ex who she fantasies about quickly crawls back into her life and she starts running round NY trying to make sense of what is going on in her mind. Whilst her husband also has his head turned, gets a bj at a sex party off his bffs wife in front of his wife…. Then blames it on her journal for making him act different.

Now, me and my dp have discussed it and got mixed feelings on the this, I’m saying he should have kept his nose out of her personal business and it wouldn’t have happened I t’s her journal her private thoughts and regardless of whether they are married everyone is allowed their personal thoughts and they do not have to be put out there for discussion. He obviously disagrees with me because he’s an actual snooper!

My dp actually did this to me early in our relationship, read years old messenger messages that I didn’t even realise was there then had the cheek to say to me if you had deleted them I wouldn’t have read them and my response was you have no need to go into my phone and read everything that was before your time. I have never done that to him and wouldn’t.

This happens it lots of relationships I know, people get their head turned, they aren’t getting the attention the need so crave it elsewhere, but not everyone acts on it! So I just wanted some thoughts (male & female) on where people stand on this situation, do people actually think it’s right to read someone’s journal? I mean it would be wrong if your parents read your teenage secret diary wouldn’t it???

This is AIBU OP, perhaps try chat or telly addicts?

Sorry should have put AIBU to think it’s wrong to read someone else’s private business????? And if people think it’s ok, how would they like it?

Yes it’s wrong to do that
Your dp sounds controlling

I didn’t ask if people thought he was controlling

He’s not, but thanks for the concern

Yes it's wrong to do that - but god I've have been tempted when I was young. Now I'm older, wiser and more respectful.

I think we’ve all had a go when we were young lol
We had the discussion about it and it was like oh so your seeing it from a women’s point of view? And I was like no not from a side where it’s just wrong to read what’s going on in someone’s mind, you can’t know 100% everything about your partner, everyone has got something they don’t want to talk about havent they?

@Cherryberrybonbon

I didn’t ask if people thought he was controlling

He’s not, but thanks for the concern

I watched this program and thought it was a steaming pile of rubbish, could have been done and dusted in 3-4 episodes.

Yes it is wrong to read your partner's journal.

It isn't wrong to fantasise about ex-partners or other people - because you're not dead. As long as you don't act out the fantasy with anybody other than your partner.

I think what this series showed was the importance of 1. honest, open, non-judgemental communication within your relationship. 2. be yourself, stop trying to act a persona or a specific lifestyle, just be you.

I still think the series was rubbish.

I've watched 3 episodes of it. Not sure if i will continue, too much sex for me. After seeing the other man's huge dick, it felt like borderline porn.

He is because he had no right to invade your privacy but you’ve accepted it so your choice

It was years ago, we were young we all make mistakes. He hasn’t done it since.

Being controlled is you been unable to say what you think, not doing what you want, having fear of upsetting a person if you do something…. Last time I looked I was the one dishing the orders out!

The big dick I did find unnecessary 🤣