Cheer me up please. Tell me about your best ‘f**k it’ moment

Brcaml · 29/06/2021 00:59

Saw a text in my exH phone from other woman - confirmed my gutt feeling for the few months. A weight lifted and a click went off in my head. Without saying a word I got up and went upstairs, packed a bag and came back down - he was standing with his phone in his hand and started to say something - shouted to Alexa to play married with children by Oasis at full volume and walked out the door. Still feels great every time I think about it. The exH and the OW are married now I've heard - I wish her all the luck in the world.

WeepingKitten · 29/06/2021 05:26

I was having along distance relationship with my DP. He kept asking me to move to be with him. But I said no and we broke up. I wanted to finish my studies. I had my family and a life ect. Anyway the last day of my course and I was thinking about my future. I was working the evening at a bar job. I stopped pouring mid pint. The place was grim and everyone looked beaten down by life. I came from a rough deprived area where benefits and crime were the norm. I though about my family and it suddenly became clear to me just how toxic they are. I had nothing to stay for. My DP had been the one good thing in my life. So I said fuck it, I grabbed my bag and walked out mid shift. I called my DP and he drove for four hours that night to come and get me. We left first thing the next morning. My DP and I have been together very happily over 20 years. We live in a beautiful area. His family are kind, warm and loving and fully embraced me. Every day I am glad I just said fuck it and walked out of my old life.

lazyarse123 · 29/06/2021 05:35

@WeepingKitten

I was having along distance relationship with my DP. He kept asking me to move to be with him. But I said no and we broke up. I wanted to finish my studies. I had my family and a life ect. Anyway the last day of my course and I was thinking about my future. I was working the evening at a bar job. I stopped pouring mid pint. The place was grim and everyone looked beaten down by life. I came from a rough deprived area where benefits and crime were the norm. I though about my family and it suddenly became clear to me just how toxic they are. I had nothing to stay for. My DP had been the one good thing in my life. So I said fuck it, I grabbed my bag and walked out mid shift. I called my DP and he drove for four hours that night to come and get me. We left first thing the next morning. My DP and I have been together very happily over 20 years. We live in a beautiful area. His family are kind, warm and loving and fully embraced me. Every day I am glad I just said fuck it and walked out of my old life.

That's so lovely, brought a little tear.

Mandalay246 · 29/06/2021 06:01

@WeepingKitten - that's so lovely to read. Well done you.

pumpkinpie01 · 29/06/2021 06:40

I had my son on my year off between A levels and uni , my parents very kindly agreed to look after him so I could still go to uni . I came back loads , but obviously missed him terribly and felt like I was living a double life. One night I just packed my stuff up and left in the night , didn't tell anyone.

Toothdrama · 29/06/2021 07:15

Single and renting a room in someones house after a long term relationship went bad after he cheated on me with a friend.... was at work and walked into a travel agent.... booked a trip to the USA visiting various places all on my own (first time going anywhere on my own)

Mum took me to the train station to get to the airport, I was terrified and crying a lovely girl in the seat in front heard me and gave me a magazine to distract myself...

Was the best trip I have ever done and changed my outlook on life. Gave me back my confidence.

Blackhawkdown2020 · 29/06/2021 13:34

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pangolina · 29/06/2021 13:40

I'd been working at a terrible company for some time and they were trying to blame me for something another manager had done. One lunchtime I rang my OH to rant and he said to me "oh just tell them to fuck off and come home" so I went in and did exactly that! Handed over my keys and left mid shift and never went back!

30degreesandmeltinghere · 29/06/2021 13:45

Met a stranger in a bar not long after I had kicked dh out and filed for divorce..
Kissed him pretty much straight away.
Gave him my number.
He text a few hours later..
Never had a night apart in nearly 9 years except when I had ds and was in hospital a week!!

NaughtyButNice · 29/06/2021 13:52

I worked in clothing retail for a short time. One day the area manager came into store really drunk. She'd been on an alcohol fuelled rampage and trashed some guys car (I don't recall if there was an affair going on between them). Myself and another colleague (her best friend) were trying to calm her down and get some coffee into her when she flipped again and threw the full kettle of just boiled water at me. It (fortunately) hit the wall but some splashed onto my clothes and when I got home I had a small burn to the back of my neck.

I didn't return and phoned head office to tell them I wasn't working my notice the following morning.

Menora · 29/06/2021 13:54

I woke up one morning and realised my boyfriend was a horrible person.
Dumped him by text before he woke up, blocked him and put all his stuff in my car and dumped it outside

AlfonsoTheMango · 29/06/2021 13:59

Funny you should ask.

About two hours ago I decided that I no longer cared that my brother despises me. He always has and he always will but I've just realised that I'm ok with that.

SeeYouInFive · 29/06/2021 14:09

Was in a high powered corporate job. No help at home, husband out of the house working 14 hour days doing an even more high-powered corporate job. Two kids, just back from second maternity leave, still breastfeeding and doing all the night wakings. Working hideous compressed hours plus late into most evenings so that I could do all the drop offs and pick ups single-handedly. Somehow had to fit in flying to Europe once a week to see clients. After shelling out for all the childcare we needed (did I mention we had no family help?!) we were only up about a hundred quid come pay day, despite DH and I earning really well. It was just horrendous and I was mentally and physically hanging by a thread.

One morning on the tube to work I decided I was gonna hand in my notice. Hadn’t even discussed it with DH. I walked straight into the office, straight into HR and told them I was leaving.

Luckily DH was really cool about it. Looking back I don’t think I was really in my right mind, but that was the extent of the stress I was under.

I went freelance to work around the kids and never looked back.

Caramellatteplease · 29/06/2021 14:10

My family were being ridiculous (DM has undiagnosed MH issues intermittently). There was a massive bust up. They dumped some money in my account, "disinherited me" and told me they were never seeing my kids and I again. My main relationship had gone belly up 3 months previously mostly unrelated (although DM manic periods definitely dont help) so it was not a good time for me.

Fuck it, thoughts I. I'm going on abroad So not much a holiday type holiday more of a travel experience. That may sound simple but one DC is in a wheelchair, the other has a few medical bits going on, the location is not known for being wheelchair friendly and I'd only ever taken the kids abroad to two other locations both of which were very wheelchair friendly and I had other adults with me.

It was a fantastic success. It did take much planning, but we had a blast and my confidence grew exponentially. It reminded me what was still possible despite all the difficulties and that life was for living.

(For course things sorted out with my family. Not least because I was the only offspring at the start of the pandemic still regularly checking how they were...🙄🙄🙄)

DynamoKev · 29/06/2021 14:15

Mine are a bit tame I'm afraid.

I once took the afternoon off work to travel around London on the tube for fun. Had finished a customer meeting early and although I was supposed to go back to the office I decided I needed some time off.

I have also quit a high power job without asking DP when the workload just got beyond stupid.

crazymicrowave123 · 29/06/2021 14:23

Not my story but I used to work in a supermarket and a previous colleague quit on the spot by calling the manger a slag alleging the manager fucked her way to the top (and a whole host of other names I can't mention) destroyed everything in the shop and threatened to fight the manager in front of all the customers. Strangely enough she wasn't charged with criminal damage and ended up getting a job in a hotel across the street!

Peace43 · 29/06/2021 14:29

I was in a relationship with a guy who didn’t want sex until we were “serious”. We’d been dating for months and fooling about but not actually sleeping together. It was frustrating and a bit of a head fuck. One night we were in bed and had the same discussion again - what constitutes “serious”. We were both single, no kids and were months into a relationship so it seemed serious enough to me!
I just looked at him and thought how much hard work this was. I got up, got dressed and never saw him again. Was a huge relief!

Aozora13 · 29/06/2021 14:35

Started at a new temp job doing admin for an advertising sales team for a big publishing house. I’ve never encountered such wildly obnoxious people. One of them was on the phone giving the hard sell to a potential client who clearly wasn’t biting. Then hung up and launched into a string of expletives about how unreasonable they were for not wanting an ad in some tedious trade magazine. Like a bad episode of the Apprentice. Left at the end of the day, never went back and found a new temp agency who started me in my current career and actually paid me on time!

MapGirlExtraordinaire · 29/06/2021 14:55

Peace his initials aren't DP are they?

My friend had exactly the same. She eventually persuaded him to have sex with her after 9 mo the, he dumped her the next day.

Our whole friendship group has always wondered what the deal was there.

stressbandit · 29/06/2021 15:11

I'd not long been been on my own since having my daughter. My relationship with my partner at the time just wasn't great so we decided on a break she was 9 months old and I found out I was pregnant again!.
I spent the whole summer moping about missing my old fun life instead of just changing nappies.
By this time I was now 7.5 months pregnant, and I just decided that week I'd get up and take her to Butlins for the week and meet the telletubbies.!

I'd never been anywhere on my own before never had the confidence or anything to even think of doing something like that, and it was amazing. I look back at the photos of her on her own and have really great memories. We not long found out she has ASD and ADHD and I really cherish those memories.
Me and my partner did get back together and we've had another baby so it's all good and now we take them down there all together, but secretly nothing will beat that little trip away we had.

DynamoKev · 29/06/2021 15:20

Thanks for the thread op - it's cheering me up

bananabanana67 · 29/06/2021 15:47

got dumped and a few weeks later after moping about decided fuck it, booked a solo trip to amsterdam and that same night met someone new staying at the same hostel. we now have a 3 month old daughter and are getting married next year!

Teddy1970 · 29/06/2021 15:53

@Bluedoor11

Had a crappy day at work today. I’m usually very calm and measured but today I really felt like saying ‘you know what, fuck it, I’m too old for this shit, I’m off’ But of course I didn’t say anything… I wish I did though… can you please cheer me up and tell me about your best fuck it moment?

That's exactly how I felt today, I wanted to tell them to shove their job where the sun don't shine!

EerieSilence · 29/06/2021 15:59

When I realised that being near my DF and DA(untie) was poison to my mental state. I just couldn't do with the drama and trying not to tell them what I think of them.
I broke off all contact. I'm much calmer and happier person now.

Wrotten · 29/06/2021 16:18

I walked out of a job mid-shift.

It was awful. Colleagues were dicks. They tried to make me wear the wrong name badge instead of getting me one with my actual name on (which was just another dig to show how little I mattered).

I was working and due to a foot injury I was really struggling to stand (was a retail job so on my feet all day) and the look of contempt I got from a colleague was enough to push me over the edge. I hobbled to get my stuff and hobbled out of the door.

They did ring my mum and tell her even though I was 18!