To raise this with the school?

[FishfingerFlinger]

DD is starting reception this year in a 2 form entry primary. 6 other children from her nursery are joining the same school. None of them are her BFFs but they’re all people she knows and spends some time with. She’s a fairly confident kid and I’m not expecting major settling in problems.

We’ve just received the class lists for September and ALL the other kids from nursery are in the other class, meaning she won’t know anyone at all in her class.

Should I raise this with the school to see if they will move her with her nursery friends? Or will it just single me out as THAT parent in our new school?

They aren't BFF's, so why care?

If there are 21 kids in a class and 6 of them are your DD and five kids she knows but are not special friends, that leaves her only 15 new acquaintances among whom to find a special friend.

If she's among 20 unknown kids she has a far higher chance iof meeting a soulmate.

I twice started new schools (primary and secondary) where I knew nobody at all. It was never a problem.

Part of socialisation is giving you child the opportunity to meet new people in an absolutely safe/secure managed setting with supervising adults. This is what builds self esteem and confidence for later life.

Coccooning her in cotton wool has exactly the opposite effect

I didn't send my daughter to the primary school nursery and she knew no one. 10 months later she has loads of new friends. I wouldn't worry about it.

I’d actually be less bothered if she knew no-one going into the school - it’s more the fact that she won’t understand why she’s the only one going into a different class.

If your child was particularly anxious then I would but if you think she is confident then I wouldnt. She will make friends in her own class and also know children from the other class as well. Other kids won't know anyone. And even if they do, the friendships will shift anyway. I was in the same boat as you and didn't say anything and my child was fine and knows a few kids from other classes and after school club etc which will be good if they have to mix up the class in the future

That’s really shit of the school and I wonder if it could have been a mistake?!

Our school divides the nursery school kids between classes and makes sure everyone had one familiar face if possible. Definitely raise this with the school, explain that this will make her settling in much much harder for both her and the teacher and ask why they have made this mistake and if itnis fixable.

Don’t worry about being “that parent”. That parent gets much better service from the school over the years…