Just as the title says. I'm fuming.
No I'm not taking him back. He's not even sorry.
We've been having problems and I was willing to work through them. He said he was too. We've been working on them since the start of March and now he tells me he was having an affair in January and ended it in April. April!!!
Oh and it's my fault apparently...
Not taking that, of course. He knows I have a history with domestic violence and emotional abuse. He knows I blame myself for other people's actions. In fact, I believe I was the reason for our marriage breakdown. But it wasn't. It was all him.
He gaslit me for ages too. I was sure something was off, that things didn't add up, but I stupidly believed him thinking I was just seeing things. Again, he knows my history of this and still did it.
He told me Thursday and was gone by Saturday. I thought I needed closure but spoke to my therapist today (for anxiety and depression) and she reminded me that narcissists never give that. So, I'm angry, so very angry, but I'm okay with no closure. My closure is our marriage was over in January when he started the affair.
We have two DDs. I'll stay as civil with him as possible for them. We agreed to a schedule Saturday before he left that splits childcare 50/50. But he's not getting to know anything about me. My eldest DD (8) says she's excited I'll get a new boyfriend (you know how they say it) because I'll be happier than I've been the last few months. They're so smart.
Don't need any advice, just kind of wanted to rant. Hope nobody minds that! I know what AIBU can be like.
Fucking arsehole...I have stronger words and have changed his name in my phone to them.