to be bothered about people taking/sharing pics of my baby?

[bananabanana67]

just that. i have a 3 month old and my sister and mum share pictures of her on their social media all the time. also if they see her there’s always a phone shoved in her face snapping pictures of her straight away even when i ask them to stop, so it’s not just the pictures i send them.

i wouldn’t mind if they only had people they know well on their fb/etc but they both have hundreds of people they don’t really speak to on their social media and i don’t really see why they need to share pictures of my daughter to them.

my sister and her fiancé also take pictures with her as if she’s their baby, can’t really explain it but i’ve had a couple of comments from others laughing about how it looks like they’re her parents in these pictures. especially because my sister literally posts pictures of her almost everyday on her sm and it’s just odd to me.

aibu to think it’s a bit weird and ask them to stop? i know i’m probably being a bit precious but i don’t feel comfortable having pictures of my daughter all over the internet to people i barely (if at all) know.

Well, as this question is asked about every week I'm going to confidently predict that some posters will agree with you, some will say you are being silly

But as there's obviously no right or wrong way to feel you do you.

If you don't want to, you don't want to.

We don't mind people sharing pics of our kids online we ask people not to use their names anywhere.

Its odd they share so many, but why does it matter if they share photos? What do you think will happen?

If you’ve asked them not to take pics and post and they are still doing it then YANBU

If they haven’t been told then YABU IMHO

When the person didn't respect my wishes I stopped sending them pictures. Pictures shared online I reported them to the site who took them down. I was hiding their privacy due to the very violent father and the sharer was well aware of this. I beverage to know the private details of someone and always ask if something can be shared.

No is no and not just for when it suits your narrative.

As always with these, if they haven't been told not to then they don't know.
I understand where your coming from, I don't find it weird to ask them to stop or atleast settle down with how much they post etc

We asked people not to share pictures of our kid until he’s old enough to ok it himself. We decided and shared this before he was born though. If people think were awful they’ve not said so to our faces so I’m not really arsed what they say in private 🤷‍♀️.

We had issues with stalking on social media before he was born so like to keep stuff private. I think it’s fine.

Yanbu. In this digital age we live in, it's impossible to control who sees the pictures, what is being done with them, the amount of information that is unwittingly shared from a photo on social media, etc. Just ask them to stop.

It might not be as dangerous when they are babies but, as they get older (e.g. infant school), sharing pictures so freely can be used for grooming. Pics online (especially with captions on public accounts) can reveal area a child lives in, parks they go to, favourite foods, who relatives are, what school they go to, etc. It can be easy to utilise the information to befriend a child.

I have said from day 1 that no one is allowed to post pics of my kids on FB/Insta. My kids are 3 and 1 now and I still get my mum asking me "please please can I share on FB? ". She thinks I am being ridiculous. Which I probably am 🤣

BUT
I just don't like the thought of my kids not having a say in what gets shared with random people they don't even know. They are people too, you have to be their voice for them at this young age. And there are so many weirdos online.

I wouldn't like it and would ask them to remove the pictures.

I think it’s a bit precious to be that bothered, but equally it should be up to you to decide so hopefully if you tell them how you feel they’ll respect it. I would never share a photo of anyone else’s baby on social media without permission anyway.

I'm v firm that people can not post pictures of my kids online to any randoms they happen to be friends with.

It's your right to say no. Simple as that.

Personally I wouldn't want baby pics of me potty training, eating, in the bath etc online so won't do that to my own children. It's your choice, and if you're not comfortable then tell them.

It's your choice obviously as the parent

But I don't get why you'd really care. They've got strangers on their SM... why would strangers care about some random's baby? They'll probably just scroll past

YANBU- the social media widespread sharing aspect of this makes me really uncomfortable. Public profiles - especially people who love a good # spree - mean anyone can see stuff.

thanks everyone. and i’m sure a lot of people will just scroll past and not care but regardless i just think why would i want my babies pictures shared to hundreds of strangers?