Why is everyone online so pedantic?

[MyLittlePonyNeedsNewShoes]

I find this only online, but it's so annoying and most of the time throws any conversation off course.

If someone posts about something (mainly complaints), then there will inevitably be a post that says 'what about people with x'.

'x' is always something that excuses said behaviour and this same response will of course goes on to say that OP is a bigot and whatever else.

It's mad! When someone speaks generally about something surely it's common sense that they're talking about the majority of people and they are aware there are exceptions. Yet every statement is taken as a personal attack against their disability or their sexuality or whatever else.

I know what you mean. I think if you're talking about one specific person, e.g. 'I was on the train and there was a kid being loud' then yes it's fair enough to point out that we don't know what's going on with said kid. If you're talking generally though 'I was on the train and most of the kids were being loud/annoying' it's highly unlikely that all the kids are neurodiverse or in care etc.

Courageous keyboard warriors!

100% agree @MyLittlePonyNeedsNewShoes

To shut down and belittle others.

@SaltAndVinegarSandwiches I agree it's fair enough if it's about a specific person they themselves do not know, but it seems to be mentioned no matter how unlikely it is.

I call them 'ahh, buts'.
Ahhh, but what about...? "I thought of that particular scenario, and you didn't, because I am a better thinker than you!"

It's a natural instinct in some to sort of play devil's advocate. But often that means a small minority override the bigger picture.

E.g. Men kill 2 women a week. "Ahh, but women sometimes kill too".

There's a psychological bias that means we take more stock of a single detailed story than brief details about a large number of people. Eg, if 1000 people at a university course thought their exam grade was fair, but one didn't and told you a lot about it, how it made them feel, that would take more space in your brain than just knowing that 1000 people felt the opposite.
Very badly paraphrased, I'm sure.

Sometimes it's justified. Other times it's just plain daft (the very rare and very specific circumstances).

Pointing out that X behaviour is very common with people who have X condition is fine, it's something the op may not know or have thought about before, and the joy of MN is learning things through the life experience of others.

Because it's the Internet.

Weasels that avoid conflict at all costs in real life, can be the hero they want to be without fear of being knocked out 😂

Something about posting online seems to bring out the worst in people.

They feel they can be more judgmental/ argumentative/ bigotry/ etc than they normally would online.

Also think some people just enjoy stirring things.

Yes it’s very tiresome, everyone is sooo offended.

Not everyone online is pedantic.

This was everywhere MNs in 2020, you can't complain about not getting a food delivery because at least you have a job, if you lost your job at least you have a roof over your head. If you're homeless at least you aren't dead. Basically no complaining unless you're dead & Im sure a painful slow death trumps a peaceful one.

Oh I hate this. Especially where someone is desperate for support and advice and pours their heart out, just for someone to reply

"Actually it's their not there".

Just why? I bet they wouldn't do that in real life

I always laugh at the people who have to correct anyone saying vagina.

"Unless you use the correct terminology (vulva) then I don't understand what you're saying" 😂

coogee

Not everyone online is pedantic.

@coogee

Not everyone online is pedantic.

Nicely done, sir.

@coogee

Not everyone online is pedantic.

😅

Because some people are keyboard warriors who would love to have the balls to do it irl, but dont so this is their outlet.

I can't stand it when people ask for a source... you're on mumsnet! you don't need a source!

@imscaredpleasehelp

I can't stand it when people ask for a source... you're on mumsnet! you don't need a source!

God I know. Its because they've been proven wrong usually.

YANBU.

I hate the akchualllly brigade, the armchaiir detectives, the people who always know better.
tedious bunch of cunts

@imscaredpleasehelp

I can't stand it when people ask for a source... you're on mumsnet! you don't need a source!

Depends what it is, but if it's something you're stating as fact it'd be helpful to know how you know. And usually a source gives context.

My absolute worst type of thread are those that begin e.g "Can't believe it's now illegal to drive red cars. Ridiculous!" with zero link to what they've clearly read but misunderstood.

One of my favourite was the poster thinking themselves clever to come up with a "photo or it didn't happen".

The OP did link to an actual photo, but hey ho

*the original post of the thread I mean!

Years ago on another forum there was a post from a woman who was upset that her husband wouldn't let an old school friend stay with them - old school friend had Schizophrenia and hadn't seen the op in about ten years and had just turned up randomly one night clearly off meds. They had a young child.

Everyone piled on about how awful her DH was that he wouldn't let a mentally ill person off his meds who he had never met stay the night in his house. They were all saying how people with schizophernia were not dangerous etc. etc. the DH was discriminatory blah blah.

I posted to say that some people with schizophrenia were in fact dangerous and cited my cousin who was not allowed to be alone with any female, even his mum, because he thought they were demons. Obvs this is an extreme example but still my point was you cannot say that anyone, mental illness or not, is absolutley not dangerous with such certainty.

Well I made the mistake of using the term 'a schizophrenic' and it was like my argument was just totally cancelled because I had used such offensive language.

So ok maybe that is offensive (didn't kbow that but was happy to be told and then to amend my language) but the very fact I had said that meant that everything else I said was made up shit and I was just as biased as the poor DH in the OP.