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I think something might be wrong with me…

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Amaranthnim · 24/06/2021 14:28

I don’t know if I have PTSD or something.

This last year has been extremely difficult for me. I moved to Spain with my husband and two young children. It was a good move for my husband and my kids as they have their grandparents and cousins nearby here and a better quality of life. But it wasn’t a good move for me I gave up a job I loved, my family and friends, my language and culture. We moved over at the beginning of lockdown and it was quite traumatic because we experienced cancelled removals, flights and accommodation in the week leading up to us leaving the UK. We were literally three days away from being homeless but managed to get a flight and ended up quarantining in the middle of nowhere for several months. About two weeks after arriving my father died in a really traumatic way that involved having to turn off life support. I wasn’t able to see him or attend the funeral.

I have been out of work for a year and looking after my children. I have just found a job and had my first day there. I burst into tears as soon as I left the building and had a massive anxiety/panic attack with flashbacks of my dad dying and moving over to Spain. I’m not sure what to do and feel very isolated and not strong enough to deal with the rigorous demands and challenging personalities that my new job has

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lanthanum · 24/06/2021 14:41

Oh gosh, what a tough time you've had. It sounds as if you could do with some proper support. Perhaps seek counselling (maybe online, as I expect it would be easier in English - and at least many people will work by Zoom or similar now).
Are your in-laws supportive? Can they signpost you to anything locally? And can they help you with what the rules are on sick leave if you need to take some?
Is there an expat community? I can imagine that some support in your own language would be welcome at the moment.

The other thing to bear in mind is that the first day in any new job is always a bit terrifying - I think many people feel absolutely exhausted at the end of the first day, and like they'll never be able to cope, even if they don't actually have a full-blown panic attack. If you can manage tomorrow, it may start to feel less daunting in a week or so.

Tomnooktoldmeto · 24/06/2021 14:45

You poor thing, that’s a lot of life changes to go through and losing a parent so abruptly is from experience traumatic in itself

Are your husband and his family supportive? Do they know how you’re really feeling, if not can you share with them it really will help

You possibly need therapy, I have a DC with PTSD and it’s important to find the right therapist for you, the good news is that thanks to COVID many are online so if you feel more comfortable with a UK based service due to language that shouldn’t be a problem

Please be kind to yourself and make time to do things that make you happy Flowers

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