DP is alone upstairs with my unpassworded phone

[Goingplacestogether]

He’s convinced he can set up an echo dot where I’ve failed. We’ll see. But should I worry? Will he peruse my what’s app chats where I join in a general moan about men? Will he find my secret stash of topless pics of Giovanni from Strictly? What about my Amazon purchase history of meaningless crap?

What would you worry about in my shoes? Besides being proven wrong re defective dot?

[Goingplacestogether]

@Lemonwoe I have privacy/incognito mood on everything. I don’t need anyone to know that I stream Baccara through you tube

[CliffsofMohair]

@Goingplacestogether

He’s convinced he can set up an echo dot where I’ve failed. We’ll see. But should I worry? Will he peruse my what’s app chats where I join in a general moan about men? Will he find my secret stash of topless pics of Giovanni from Strictly? What about my Amazon purchase history of meaningless crap?

What would you worry about in my shoes? Besides being proven wrong re defective dot?

Defective Dot would make an awesome username

[TastyMeatPuppet]

I'd worry he'd see his birthday present.

In reality he doesn't even like going in my handbag because it's considered mine so I doubt he'd look. We know each others passcode a but it's in case of emergencies not because we use each others phones.

I bet his online shopping orders are bigger than I thought mine bloody are!

[Goingplacestogether]

Re the trust point. I told and repeated my passcode to my chap. He said “can’t you you just turn it off for now while i sort this the turn it back on, because I can’t be arsed remembering it”. He’s told me his often but it doesn’t stick

[Lemonwoe]

@Goingplacestogether bet that’s what he’s been doing. Yes sir, he can boogie

[Goingplacestogether]

@Lemonwoe I’ll allow that if he dances for me before bed

[mathanxiety]

I don't think that's trust, @Paul72.

Trust is 'not knowing or having the means to know, but feeling confident regardless'.

[Goingplacestogether]

@CliffsofMohair oh that makes me long for more line of duty!

[LadyDanburysCane]

DH knows the PINs for my phone, my iPad, my laptop etc etc. The only thing he doesn’t know are my work logins.

I have no issue with him having access but he does know not to look in the run up to Christmas / his birthday to avoid spoiling any surprises.

Apart from gifts I have nothing to hide….

[Perfectlystill]

There is nothing on my phone DH would be shocked by. Nothing!

And vice versa thankfully.

[MrsGulDukat]

Finding all the smutty fanfic I've written.

[undermycatsthumb]

How on Earth is it controlling to know each other’s PINs? DH and I use each other’s phones constantly, mainly because we are both rubbish at remembering to charge our phones and therefore there’s often only one functioning, or because we are in the car and one of us has shut our phone in a bag in the boot, or because one of us has left our phone downstairs when we go up to bed... etc etc.

[IndiaMay]

My baby name list of names he would HATE. Mumsnet, Literotica and YouTube true crime videos

[BaublesAndGlitter]

I wouldn't want him to see the amount of random crap I type into google daily. Just today it has included 'who is Becky with the good hair? Can dogs eat potato skins? Colourful sun loungers. Moose tracks ice cream. Rugby kick off times. And light up Christmas cactus 😂

I also have Pinterest boards for Harry Potter, my dream home, crafting and Pictures of Chris Hemsworth, chris Evans, RDJ, and rugby players random other things.

I'd like to think he wouldn't look though... he knows my pin code (and I know his). We don't spy though.

[cricketmum84]

It would be my online shopping history 😂

And my numerous rants about him to my DSis!

[SirenSays]

I'm in the middle of writing a horror screenplay so he'd probably be shocked to discover all my research on the taste of human flesh. Generally speaking we aren't private with our phones and use each others all the time when it's more convenient, like if one needs charging for example.

[Yaya26]

My obsession with Jamie Dornan. 🤫

[Branster]

DH could access my phone anytime he wanted to as I don't have a passcode and I leave it lying around. We don't actually look at easy other's phone bar the occasional emergency quick grab, do what's needed and hand back.
But should he ever actually snoop around he'd be shocked at my relationship with SpaceNK. Hoping internet history searches of Aldi Special Buys might level out the overall picture 😅

[HopeYourHighHorseBucks]

No one is saying knowing your DP pin is controlling, people are pointing out that the poster who is so confident with their "total trust" in their partner, because they share the same pins and same bank pin, has got the meaning of trust wrong.

[EverNapping]

I just have my mum to worry about as she knows my Swype pattern. The thought of her seeing my medical dark side YouTube history, or my Archive of Our Own history is, deeply disturbing.

I should really change Swype, but then what if I drop down dead and she has to do admin!

[Ineedtogotobednowplease]

The trust comments make me laugh.

I trust my DH about the things that matter. We have a joint account and he's left to supervise the children FFS.

Still doesn't mean I want him to know I daydream about running off with Oscar Issac when he's pissed me off and not put the dishwasher on, does it?!

Some people have a life and a personality outside their relationship.

[orangejuicer]

No issues with either of us using each other's phones. We have different passcode but we know each other's so it's not an issue.

I already know what he watches on YouTube- it's mostly vehicle related or random engineering videos!

On mine he would see the shit I post on here and social media but nothing I'd be ashamed for him to see.

[HadEnoughOfBears]

@GrealishHairband

My occasional Larry Stylinson fanfic habit. Thanks mumsnet for THAT rabbit hole several years ago.

Oh there's some good ones!
🙈🙈🙈🙈

[StoneofDestiny]

I'm your partner and I see you spend too much time on Mumsnet 😂

[MrsDoctorDear]

We've got the same passcode, we both picked the telly remote number so we wouldn't forget.

We throw our phones over at eachother if we wanted to show something. I sometimes say to DH oh just answer that text for me cos I'm busy (can't be arsed). But we wouldn't look at anything else. I'm sure I'd be bored by what he looks at, god knows he'd be bored with my random crap.
He knows if I'm not on MN then I'm shopping.