Nursery workers- does crying stop you liking the child/toddler

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Being silly probably but I just feel worried. DD2 is teething badly (back molars) and has periods of being really grizzly for the past fortnight. When I’ve picked her up from nursery they’ve said she’s great in the morning but grizzly and unsettled in the afternoon. Today the lady said she had been upset and said ‘she’s got a good set of lungs’ with an eye roll. She’s normally very sweet and happy and I can see from the updates she’s playing and smiling in the day. I’m worried they are going to start finding her annoying if she’s always crying in the afternoons. She’s not even a PFB so I don’t know why it’s bothering me- I know she won’t be crying loads and just unsettled on and off but in the baby room she was so happy and settled im finding it a bit hard. Due to covid ive never been inside and only met her (lovely!) key worked at handovers which are fairly brief.

Nursery workers- do you get annoyed with crying kids? Does it put you off them and end up not engaging as much? No judgement from me I want the truth!

Sat with my sister and asked her, she said yes and eye rolled then smiled. I think she's half joking maybe

I'm a childminder and it doesn't stop me liking them, but I'm not sad when it's home time. It's like anything, a hard day at work can be draining for anyone. I get over it pretty quickly though! My own children are older now so our home is fairly quiet when the last one goes home and I can chill. Especially if it's short lived like teething. Long term criers can be harder to bond with but it's rare to have a child that always cries.

Oh dear 😂

@Shapesorted thank you I think that’s what I was hoping I obviously see them towards the end of the day when they’re probably just generally spent (I know that feeling well!) so it’s not her just looking after a load of toddlers I knackering!

Not the same but I worked on a childrens ward and one of our babies cried every night from about 9pm until 2/3am. I still adored them, but I felt drained by it. And a bit useless as nothing settled them. (No family visited) eventually we got into a groove where we were able to find a bit of a routine & different things that helped but whenever I was assigned the baby as my patient I used to think "oh no" (for clarity I absolutely adored them & still think of them often - I think the frustration comes from being unable to help rather than disliking a child)

Are you sure it's just teething? Is she getting a good enough nap at nursery? She could be tired in the afternoon.

@shouldistop she has a good 2 hour sleep! Apparently she starts getting a bit sad when other kids start going home (from around 3:30 as a couple of kids have teachers as parents) she normally gets picked up around 5. If never bothered her in the baby room, she’s been in the toddler room about a month and the first two weeks they said she’d been fab all day. She’s been dribbly, biting her hands and I can see the whites of back teeth poking through and been a bit grizzly at times at home so I assumed it was teeth but perhaps not!

Could you give her some ibuprofen before nursery? Problem is it only lasts 4-6 hours. Will the nursery administer medication?

Doesn't make me annoyed or like them less but of course it can be draining when children cry for extended periods. Its draining when my own children cry too!

@shouldistop I do if she’s struggling in the morning. They will and I did ask them to call me any time if they think she’s struggling and they can give some calpol but they don’t seem to call.

That's a bit annoying, if it is teething then a dose of Calpol as soon as she gets up from her nap would probably help a lot

I used to work in a nursery. It didn't make me like them less at all. It just made me more tired!
The ones that bit, slapped and punched I wasn't that keen on 😬

It'll pass if she's pleasant in the morning they'll understand it is pain and comfort her.

Doesn't put you off the child, just makes you glad to get home.

That's a bit heartbreaking @lord 😞

No but sometimes it can be exhausting. I usually find I end up closer to grizzly children because you end up feeling like you’ve made an achievement if they start to chill out.

@shouldistop

That's a bit annoying, if it is teething then a dose of Calpol as soon as she gets up from her nap would probably help a lot

I agree. Why are they withholding something that will help with the pain? Poor thing

Total truth, it is draining and we are not sad to see them go merrily on their way at pick up time ..BUT we never dislike the child at all and everything is fine possible to comfort them. When mine cried all day when they were little I was also relieved if someone would take them out for a bit and I loved them! Nursery will be used to criers don’t worry !

Honestly it can be a bit trying when you have a ‘crier’ but I just see it as part of the job really. It would never occur to me to dislike a child because they cry, I might dislike the noise but never the poor child.

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I would ring them in the afternoon ask how she's doing, if she's struggling with her teeth tell them to give her Calpol.

@ApplesandBananas21 I might do that tomorrow or specifically say please give it to her when she wakes.

Sorry @lordalmighty, I’ve become a bit upset reading that, have I understood, there was a baby alone in hospital and no one visited at all?

My DS nursery won't administer any medication unless prescribed by a doctor or in an emergency situation! Just musing how daft it is...

@BakeOffRewatch i would imagine there's a few babies like that given up or removed at birth.

might do that tomorrow or specifically say please give it to her when she wakes.

Good idea. Or if they will administer ibuprofen then get them to give it before her nap