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AIBU to put up a fence against neighbours' wishes?

247 replies

bigbluecup · 23/06/2021 19:41

Long story short, I've wanted to change my 4' flimsy wire fence for a 6' solid wood panel one for a while. I finally have the funds for it, and an even bigger falling out with neighbours next door recently has led me to seriously go for it. I currently have no privacy in my garden, and after they have removed all of the trees and hedges on the other side of my fence my dog is now more than capable of jumping over the 4' wire fence. I would also love to be able to sit in my garden without them staring at me as they currently do (retired couple who seem to live in their garden)

The current fence is 100% mine, no doubt about it. I've looked up rules and I'm perfectly allowed to put up a 6' solid fence without need for planning permission.

However, they witnessed someone I had over to give me a quote for this new fence and they went BALLISTIC. They're claiming that their garden will be darkened and that the only reason they just cut down all the trees and hedges on their side of the fence were to give them extra light.

AIBU to still be strongly considering putting up this fence?

OP posts:
aggathapanthus · 23/06/2021 20:05

Fence.
I believe the legal limit is 7ft? Unless their garden is 10ft wide, a 6ft fence will not put them in the shade.

Billybagpuss · 23/06/2021 20:06

There is nothing they can do, put up the fence and enjoy your privacy. We jointly own our and our neighbour is in dispute with another neighbour so she is putting up a fence on the very edge of her border so the other neighbour has no right of complaint.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 23/06/2021 20:07

A 6ft fence is perfectly normal!

Nightbear · 23/06/2021 20:08

Wooden panel fences are standard unless you’re keeping horses Confused

Whammyyammy · 23/06/2021 20:08

Feck em. Put up the fence

WingingItSince1973 · 23/06/2021 20:09

Definitely put up the fence. Privacy and security reasons top their dubious shade problem. Plus it's your fence x

PurBal · 23/06/2021 20:10

@GeorgiaGirl52

Put it up and then plant a row of even taller trees, bushes, bamboo inside the fence.
I like this idea Grin
MiddlesexGirl · 23/06/2021 20:10

Posts and wire and shrubs will not keep a dog in.
Height of fences is apparently a local planning policy issue but 2m seems standard.

Imnotcrazyjustdrunk · 23/06/2021 20:11

I'd leave the wire fence up and put up the 6' fence on your side

Sadsiblingatsea · 23/06/2021 20:13

If you do put up a fence, please leave at least a 3 inch hole somewhere, which is enough for hedgehogs to use as a vital pathway between gardens.

Nobeautysleep · 23/06/2021 20:14

We did this.
Except we took our fence to 2metre (6ft6!)

TheSoapyFrog · 23/06/2021 20:15

YANBU. Can you apply to get an 8ft fence?

Chloemol · 23/06/2021 20:15

Put the fence up. It’s the first thing I did when I moved, on all three sides of my garden as I needed privacy ( previously chain link fence and a few bushes). One neighbour ok the other a bit upset as she couldn’t shout across three gardens to her friend

Let them moan away you gave the right to out a fence up

GertietheGherkin · 23/06/2021 20:19

@MissM2912

I personally don’t like wooden plank fences like that. Think a bit tacky. I would put up posts and wire and shrubs.
Posts and wire? Seriously? Shrubs take time to grow and the likelihood is the neighbours will trim them right down.

Also it won't keep the dog safe.

olympicsrock · 23/06/2021 20:19

Just tell them you want privacy and that is your right. Their wishes don’t trump yours.

Coffeemakesmehappy · 23/06/2021 20:21

@Sadsiblingatsea

If you do put up a fence, please leave at least a 3 inch hole somewhere, which is enough for hedgehogs to use as a vital pathway between gardens.
Love this. Smile 6ft fence to be a responsible person and keep your dog within your boundaries, whilst also looking out for hedgehogs (I am lucky enough to have 3 visiting every night).
wasthataburp · 23/06/2021 20:21

Of course you should just put up the fence!!

Cactusowl · 23/06/2021 20:23

Another vote for putting a fence up. I wouldn’t feel comfortable in my garden if my neighbours and I could see each other.

Boatingforthestars · 23/06/2021 20:23

Put it up and maybe treat yourself to a cheeky trellis on top of it too

danni0509 · 23/06/2021 20:24

I’d put an 8ft one up to piss them off further.

bigbluecup · 23/06/2021 20:24

Phew, thanks all - you've put my mind at ease that I'm not being irrational. I'd have considered replacing with a slightly higher (and sturdier) wire fence, but their recent antics made me want to build a wall Donald Trump would be jealous of. Alas, I'll stick with a 6' solid fence so at least I don't have to see their faces all day long.

@Sadsiblingatsea Thank you so much for the advice, I had no idea and we have lots of hedgehogs in the gardens so I'll be sure to give them a route through.

As for our garden sizes, they're pretty large - wide and long. I know some of theirs will be darker into the evening but definitely not the whole garden, and they will just have to move their patio furniture if they want it in the sun

OP posts:
EKGEMS · 23/06/2021 20:25

If it were me I'd get the side of fence facing them electrified (just joking)

Leonberger · 23/06/2021 20:25

Put up the fence!

We had the exact same issue. I remember the neighbour stomping around as the men were putting it up Grin
Worth every bit of drama though.

Blackcat333 · 23/06/2021 20:26

They cut down trees? I hate them already... Fence and some trees please, the big ferns that grow fast and tall 😂.

Patapouf · 23/06/2021 20:29

Put it up, tough shit to grumpy neighbours maybe they can sit on the other side of the garden if they are so worried about light! A six foot fence is the norm!

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