My DH is not working at the moment. I work 30hrs a week but often more, starting at 8 and getting home at 7etc. It's fine that he's not working, we're financially stable so no concerns there.
He's doing the school runs and try cooking. He's making a half-arsed attempt once a week to clean the house (read: pretty crap attempt at cleaning the kitchen and bathroom, and occasionally, very occasionally hoovers the rest of the house. No dusting or anything like that). I do the laundry. I was doing the shopping online but he wanted to do it instead. He'll go out several times a week and buy just enough food. Doesn't do a proper big shop.
Today I asked him to change the beds. The idea of changing the beds would not enter his heads in a million years. So I need to remind him. I've just come upstairs to find no beds have been changed. I'm sick of it. I called him (he's taken DD to gymnastics) and asked him what the one thing was I'd asked him to do today. He couldn't remember. Oh , it's ok he'll do it later. At NINE O'CLOCK when they get home. Wtaf?
Daily I come home to an utter shit tip "oh I'll sort it out tomorrow".
Our house is a mess. There's a whole load of DIY / sorting that needs doing that we don't have chance to do in normal times. Broken door handles, broken cupboards doors etc. He's cleaned out the shed. One thing that makes no difference to our day to day lives at all.
He decorated DS's bedroom before Xmas. It's not finished.
I am so fucking sick of coming home to a shit hole when he has all day every bloody day to sort it out. Why do I need to be the one to spoon feed what needs to be done? I'll do laundry etc on my day off. But he has 5 whole child free days a week where he can do what he likes. Surely some of that time should be trying to make our home a nicer place to live?!
I'm nagging. I don't want to nag but I can't let this go. I think he genuinely doesn't care about mess / dirt / broken cupboards. He doesn't see it, so he does nothing about it.
I'm just so so exhausted.
What do I do??