To think this is a bit much?

[Chikapu]

My friend texted me about an hour and a half ago, I didn't answer because I was busy making a start on tea, taking some laundry upstairs, talking to my other half (he's still working before someone asks why he wasn't making tea!) etc, just household stuff really.
She's just texted me again to make sure I'm ok as she's worried! Surely this isn't too long to not answer? She does this all the time btw, it's not a one off, I feel like she expects an instant answer and that maybe I have nothing better to do.
Do you answer texts immediately and do you think me rude for not doing so?

I can go at least a day before answering. Especially in the evening when I’m making dinner and getting DCs ready for bed - I’ll see a text, forget and remember the next day. Your friend is being ridiculous.

Tell her you're fine and that you will respond when you get a chance in future, not necessarily as soon as you see a message. She sounds a bit intense.

Unless her text was urgent (someone seriously ill for example) she’s being ridiculous - and if something is urgent that’s what actual phone calls are for. She either has anxiety issues if she’s actually worried about you, or more likely she’s attention seeking. You’re being perfectly normal.

or more likely she’s attention seeking

I think attention seeking is actually bang on, she's having drama at work again that I'm not really buying into on the level she expects. I'm trying to stay neutral and I don't think she likes it.

I used to have a friend like this - she'd text 5 times then call the house phone to 'check' you were okay, all within the space of an hour. We were teenagers though - even less excusable in an adult!

How annoying.
If she does this all the time, I would have to tell her.
Too much like hard work for me, though.

Not rude at all, she isn’t your first priority and she needs to understand you have other things to do instead of being ready to text her back instantly.
I don’t answer texts straight away either, sometimes days, people get busy.

She would hate me! My friends and I can go well over a week before replying. Everyone is busy/forgets/cant be bothered.
I'd rather someone replied when in the headspace for wanting a good chat rather than obligation.

My mother does this. Drives me insane, and every time she does it, it makes me take longer to reply.

Text book passive aggressive woe is me texts... followed by feigned concern for you, all because you have not responded yet ...

I loathe this bollocks...

Ignore all texts until you are ready to respond OP 🌸

Winwins Agh, mine too. Last week I asked her again to not be so melodramatic and that next time she texts, WhatsApps, Signals, emails, voicemails etc. to ask if I'm dead, that I won't respond because I find it offensive. I'm an adult!!
I know she means well but it's too much.

I've a pain in my hole with people and text messages, people have no patience anymore, if someone wants you urgently they can blooming well phone. Your friend is being dramatic, worried about you.... Jesus..

My dd is homeschooling due to sheilding. The teacher is a fuck wit. I actually will block her number Friday when school finishes. I get approximately 3 texts, 2 emails per day and one phone call per week and that's on top of zoom schooling that is done daily. If I don't answer her messages immediately she keeps phoning. In fact yesterday she sent me a text at 7pm at 11pm she sent another text asking if I got the other one, I'm sick of impatient people, not everyone is sitting on their holes waiting for texts.

Just tell her you're fine but have other things to do, will reply when you are free?

A friend of mine mentioned just this thing last night. She has another friend, I dont know her, who does this. Even when friend is busy at work she will text (knowing friend is at work). Friend lives alond so in one way says it nice to have that back up if anything did happen but getting a stroppy text saying "Are you not talking to me" when friend hasnt been able to answer the 4 or 5 texts sent in 2 hours is getting on her nerves. The thing is, her other friend will turn up at her house so ignoring her doesnt work either!

@PyongyangKipperbang

A friend of mine mentioned just this thing last night. She has another friend, I dont know her, who does this. Even when friend is busy at work she will text (knowing friend is at work). Friend lives alond so in one way says it nice to have that back up if anything did happen but getting a stroppy text saying "Are you not talking to me" when friend hasnt been able to answer the 4 or 5 texts sent in 2 hours is getting on her nerves. The thing is, her other friend will turn up at her house so ignoring her doesnt work either!

Thankfully we're in different countries so she can't turn up on my doorstep I don't know, I'm just finding the whole friendship exhausting atm!

@Lipz

I've a pain in my hole with people and text messages, people have no patience anymore, if someone wants you urgently they can blooming well phone. Your friend is being dramatic, worried about you.... Jesus..

My dd is homeschooling due to sheilding. The teacher is a fuck wit. I actually will block her number Friday when school finishes. I get approximately 3 texts, 2 emails per day and one phone call per week and that's on top of zoom schooling that is done daily. If I don't answer her messages immediately she keeps phoning. In fact yesterday she sent me a text at 7pm at 11pm she sent another text asking if I got the other one, I'm sick of impatient people, not everyone is sitting on their holes waiting for texts.

I don't know many teachers who would attempt that sort of contact unless it was urgent. I'm guessing you know it isn't so very odd Of them

OP I agree it's bad if it's all the time! If it was something like. 'Can I just check we are ok for meeting tomorrow I'm just booking tickets' or something and you read but didn't reply then slightly different but that sounds a bit bonkers

I’ve had a few friends like this in the past - I cut contact with them all eventually.

My mum does this, messages me constantly till she gets a reply but can ignore me for hours/days.

I hate this. One of my friends doesn't just text me, if I don't answer she will video call, send fb messages, phone the house phone!

@storminabuttercup

I don't know many teachers who would attempt that sort of contact unless it was urgent. I'm guessing you know it isn't so very odd Of them

My dds school does, it's unbearable. I get so stressed out that I have to take anxiety meds. Dd goes to a special needs school. When she's in school they phone, I nearly kill myself answering the phone when it rings, as I think something is wrong and they'll be ringing for ridiculous things. The home schooling has been much worse. It is every single day, so many texts, so many emails etc. I've told them it's ott, they continue to do it. I always say when I'm busy and not to phone and it's like they ensure to ring, text more. The day of my mother's funeral they rang constantly, my bag was on dds wheelchair and my sil had dd at the back of the church, I forgot to turn off my phone, they rang over and over and I ended up having to go outside to speak with them and all it was, was a paperwork item they needed filling, nothing urgent. I've been at serious appointments and I make sure to inform them and they just keep texting, ringing till I speak with them. It's very draining.

Your friend would hate me. I have a PAYG mobile, I last topped up with £20 a couple of years ago and it mostly lives uncharged in the bottom of my handbag. She would be lucky to get a response after a month or two