Should I report him for this even though it was a couple of weeks ago?

[Anon221215]

A couple of weeks ago an argument kicked off between me and my ex husband. It left me with this bruises where he grabbed my arms - one of the ones on the side of my arms look like fingerprints - and I also had a concussion which I had a telephone appointment with my GP for (didn’t tell them the reason why) because he was pulling and pushing me I hit my head quite hard on a wall.

I have photos of the bruises.

I was in shock which is why I haven’t reported it before now, but I’m also reluctant to because even though there is a history there it’s always been NFA’d due to him only doing it with no witnesses.

Yes I have the bruises but if he denies it ever happening, surely nothing can be done?

YANBU I would report it so there is a record. I'm so sorry that happened to you OP.

Of course you can report it now. Why are you still with him though? You really need to get away from him.

I’m not with him, he is my ex, but still sees our child, I’m just worried about him getting away with it AGAIN and lying his way out of it - every time it gets no further action from the police it gives him permission to do it again!

Report it again, please! Shitty abusive men like him keep doing it because they can. Can you go back to court and ask for contact centre access, because he is violent and its not safe for you to have contact any other way?

Why do the police keep NFA'ing the assaults if you have bruises, you are making statements and supporting prosecution? How many times has this happened? Have you ever been referred to MARAC?

They keep NFA’ing it because it’s essentially my word against his with no witnesses (it’s proving he has caused the bruises) x

In that case, just don't be in the same place as him. Ask for the contact centre and a non-mol, and if he breaches it, report him again. Have you ever been put in touch with an IDVA?

Get a doorbell cam and step outside of your house if you can to collect your child. I feel for you OP, I'm fucking sick to death of hearing about men getting away with shit like this, I'm not surprised you feel too deflated to even bother reporting.

No harm in doing so whatsoever m
Any witnesses?
Neighbour aware of noise etc

You simply should never be alone with this man

No witnesses does make it difficult to progress

I second getting a doorbell cam, and any other security cams around the house covering blindspots. I would even get one in the hallway incase he barged in. I hope this time is different op

Do report it. Doorbell cams are a good idea. You should def be able to get a non-molestation order which would carry penalties for breaking it, which might enable the police to do more and actually stop him from doing this. It's not ok and you and you child should be protected from this man.

Sorry you are having to deal with this OP. It sounds really hard.

I think you have to report it as there are children involved. You don’t have a choice. Witnessing or even hearing domestic violence is a form of abuse as it has such a toxic effect on child development and can have long lasting effects.

It’s not your fault. You have done your best. It’s really important from now that you protect your children from the risks. Log it with the police. They should make a referral to Social Services if there were children in the house but if they don’t then contact them yourself. Please don’t avoid this because you are worried they might remove your children (it’s a common fear when Social Services are mentioned) that is always the last resort when all else has failed or if the immediate risks are unmanageable. None of what you have said would fit here.

Check out the Women’s Aid website for more information.

Good luck. You and your children deserve better than this.

Amazon have a mini body cam for £28.

@Anotheruser02 says get a body cam. That would be the sensible option