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To ask for tips on how to cook the perfect steak?

78 replies

FluffyT · 22/06/2021 20:02

DH wants steak on Friday and I am already worrying that I will mess it up. The last two times I have cooked steak it was overcooked and he couldn’t eat it so please could you offer me tips to cook the perfect medium rare steak so we can have a nice dinner?

OP posts:
Capricornandproud · 22/06/2021 21:23

May ask to get a new one? You seem terrified and very obedient where your husband is concerned. What’s the story there? Bollocks to how he likes his steak!

Taliskerskye · 22/06/2021 21:24

Why do you need to ask to get a new pan

Why isn’t he cooking the steak if it’s his fave

I have been served over cooked steak, I would still eat it and say “don’t worry love, Still tasty!”

arethereanyleftatall · 22/06/2021 21:41

Christ. Given your opening sentence, you are very lucky people actually responded on how to cook steak.

ShirleyPhallus · 22/06/2021 21:44

Oh OP I’ve read some of your other posts. Your husband sounds like an arse

arethereanyleftatall · 22/06/2021 21:44

Ah. Omfg. I've just seen the next bit. You need to ask to get a new pan??

Op.

  1. You shouldn't be scared to cook a steak. If it fucks up, it fucks up and you eat the chips.
  2. You shouldn't need to ask to get a new pan. You get a pan if you need a pan.
  3. I really hope the chores are evenly spread so that 'dh has asked for steak' is a reasonable request.
Hax · 22/06/2021 21:46

Get fillet steak, cut thick, by far the most tender. Yes it's more expensive but harder to ruin.
I don't fuss about. Hot pan, oil, sear and cook to your liking.
Purists will hate this but if you're unsure take it out of the pan and cut wirh sharp knife to see how pink it is.

CurryLover55 · 22/06/2021 21:46

The less you do to it the better.

Slippy78 · 22/06/2021 21:57

Get fillet steak, cut thick, by far the most tender.
It has the least flavour though.

Graphista · 22/06/2021 22:15

Step 1- Hand steak to DH
Step 2 - DH cooks his own damn steak

This!

Assuming it's not his birthday or something?

But even then if you cook unless it's totally inedible he doesn't get to moan!

Joking aside your last post concerns me with the tone!

Oh OP I’ve read some of your other posts. Your husband sounds like an arse

I really hope we're wrong

jelly79 · 22/06/2021 22:19

All of the above but on a bbq!

Lightswitchesoffatnight · 22/06/2021 22:28

You need a really decent steak, I buy Sirloin or fillet. It needs to be thick, otherwise it’s impossible to cook it rare or medium rare.

I use a heavy griddle, or even better a charcoal BBQ. I get the steaks out a good hour before I cook them. Oil your steak, not the pan. Season very well with salt and black pepper. Get your griddle scorching hot, cook one steak at a time, throw it on and leave it be. I use a timer, two minutes each side for medium rare. Rest it on a warm plate, for five minutes. Enjoy.

bogglin · 22/06/2021 22:31

Rib eye is a good cut.
I don’t see what’s so wrong with wanting to cook something nice for your significant other, unless there’s a back story. Jesus Grin
Room temp, good seasoning, hot pan, rest. That’s all you need to know

Graphista · 22/06/2021 23:51

@bogglin it would appear there is a significant backstory going by ops other posts.

Seems they are in an abusive relationship and struggling to get out.

SpringCrocus · 23/06/2021 00:04

He can cook his own dam steak

Nannyamc · 23/06/2021 00:10

Have been cooking steak for years. Only use fillet or striplion. Use olive oil salt and pepper. Leave to room temperature at least 1 hr before cooking. Hot pan to brown each side 1 munite each side. Add butter 2 mins each side for rare 4 mins each side for medium. 6 mins each side for well done

Conchitastrawberry · 23/06/2021 00:42

Let it get to room temp, batter it with a rolling pin, rub oil and salt into it, red hot pan and then fry for however long until it’s how you like it. My DH does a minute on each side.

MummBraTheEverLeaking · 23/06/2021 00:49

Just to say, damn you all, I now want steak. Yes I know it's nearly 1am but I really fancy a steak now dammit Grin

PickAChew · 23/06/2021 00:49

Rib eye is the best combo of tasty and tender.

I wouldn't waste it on an asshole, though.

jimmyhill · 23/06/2021 01:28

Steak to room temperature.

Put some Maldon salt flakes on steak shortly before cooking.

Cook on a screaming hot flat cast iron griddle pan.

Cook as little as you dare. You can always cook more, you can't uncook. It will continue to cook as it rests.

Don't cover as it rests. You want it to rest, not sweat.

I agree with the first PP who said he should cook his own damn steak if he's so particular. Cooking it is half the fun anyway.

Susannahmoody · 23/06/2021 01:36

I may ask if we can get a new one maybe.

^

Whaaattttttt

Nancydrawn · 23/06/2021 01:59

OP, I'm a bit worried for you. You mentioned the need to go to a refuge in an earlier post, and now you're anxious about miscooking his steak and unsure if you're able to buy a new pan.

Are you okay?

Lightswitchesoffatnight · 23/06/2021 10:48

@Nannyamc

Have been cooking steak for years. Only use fillet or striplion. Use olive oil salt and pepper. Leave to room temperature at least 1 hr before cooking. Hot pan to brown each side 1 munite each side. Add butter 2 mins each side for rare 4 mins each side for medium. 6 mins each side for well done
striploin 😂😂😂
JesusInTheCabbageVan · 23/06/2021 10:52

@Nancydrawn

OP, I'm a bit worried for you. You mentioned the need to go to a refuge in an earlier post, and now you're anxious about miscooking his steak and unsure if you're able to buy a new pan.

Are you okay?

Oh Sad I didn't realise.
cocoloco987 · 23/06/2021 10:56

@Nancydrawn

OP, I'm a bit worried for you. You mentioned the need to go to a refuge in an earlier post, and now you're anxious about miscooking his steak and unsure if you're able to buy a new pan.

Are you okay?

I didn't even know this but OP's post and update about the pan made me wonder. Just because a steak is a bit more cooked than preference doesn't make it inedible so senses were already up, confirmed by the one about the pan. Hope you're ok OP
Confusedandshaken · 23/06/2021 11:34

This is my personal fail safe method for a rear steak. It's been tested over many years. It gives a good dark crust with soft meat of what ever shade of red/pink/brown you prefer within.

Take the steaks out of the fridge a good couple of hours before you cook them. Dry them by resting them on clean kitchen roll and rotating and changing it as necessary. You want them as dry as possible sothey crust rather than steam when they hit the hot pan.

Preheat a cast iron pan for at least 40 minutes. It should be so hot you can only hold your hand 5 inches above it for a few seconds.
Lightly oil and salt/pepper your room temp, dried steaks and sear for 30 seconds on either side. Leave on fresh, clean kitchen roll for 10/15 minutes. Change the paper if necessary. More excess water will drain out. Put back in the hot pan for another 1 min either side. Leave to rest on yet more fresh dry kitchen roll for 15 minutes.

That will probably be enough for anyone who likes a rare steak. If someone likes it medium , do another 45 second round. If they like it welldone then a 4th go will do it. You could do a 5th go but you probably won't need to.

If I'm cooking for a few people I start with those who like it well done, then I do the mediums in the second round and I only add the rare/blue/properly cooked steaks for the last two rounds.

Be warned - this method generates a lot of smoke. Even flames if the steak is fatty. Have the extractor fans on, the windows open and a small child or willing adult prepared to flap a tea towel at the smoke detectors if necessary.

Drying it before and during cooking ensures a good, flavoursome crust rather than the slightly flabby finish that cooking (essentially steaming and then drying) a damp steak can give.

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