Dad not helping as much as I need him to

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I’m so worn out my shoulder is in agony I’m exhausted I’m up early morning on baby duty as soon as I wake up. I feed her and carry her around and she’s starting to walk so I’m holding onto her as she walks and dad just sits there and lets her cry :/ It’s so so so unfair. I haven’t had a break he’s went out nearly every week staying on overnights. He complains all the time about how tough it all is when I’m the one doing it all!!! Im so exhausted physically I feel I can’t do it anymore my heart is hurting from the stress and being on the go all the time. He never treats me to anything never offers to give me a night break :( anyone the same? I do enjoy being a mum but I need more support :(

Have you told him you need more support and, if you did, what did he say? Based solely on your OP, I'd say if he's that bad then you probably need to start looking into single parenthood. You're doing it all yourself anyway but then at least you wouldn't have twelve stone of useless under your feet.

Did he want the baby? Because he doesn't seem to now. Ask him what he thought it was going to be like?

Very typical im afraid

That doesn’t sound good at all, or in any way fair.

Do you just think of him as the baby’s dad now because of his behaviour and not really as a partner? Comes across that way and as though he’s killed your feelings for him.

Shouldn’t be typical!

Not typical he is just a shit dad and partner.

If your shoulder is hurting from carrying her, I’d recommend getting a baby carrier/sling to wear so that the weight is more evenly distributed.

And then lose the other dead weight that you’re carrying. It sounds like he has checked out of fatherhood and your partnership, so look into how to go about doing it on your own.