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[catwoman1970]

Not sure what the right thing to do is wanted advice, my child's dad boosted a few weeks ago that he is earning 37k, he gives me £105 a month and has his child every other weekend Friday night to Sunday night.

I questioned him on this and asked for an increase I wanted £150 he would only go to £120, he will only have my son on weekends so I do all the school runs which restricts me working etc so I have said from now on he has to have him in the week with the odd weekend, I know he won't, I want to allow go to the csa to get more money for us, but this will call bad feeling, what does everyone think

Have you done the csa calculator on what he earns?

Put the details into the CMS calculator and see what it says. Go from there. He should absolutely pay the CMS minimum amount £105 a month is a pitiful amount if you’re doing all the care. Does he pay towards school uniform, new trainers, school trips? I think I can guess the answer

If you do go to the CMS and it does cause bad feeling remember that’s all his fault. He shouldn’t resent financially supporting his child.

Ive just done it on what you say he earns, he is paying pittance.

Csa don't care that he pays for extra, I was told this many years ago when I was claiming.

Op you ex should be paying well over £300 a month, unless he has another child he pays for.

@vodkaredbullgirl

Ive just done it on what you say he earns, he is paying pittance.

I did the same. OP you and your child are being totally screwed over by this loser.

Go through CSA.
Get childcare (there is heavy govt support for childcare as a lone parent, up to 70%) and find work that doesnt have to factor on school runs.

He has two children in oz but one is now 18 and I doubt he pays for them plus his has 2 children so they reduced my money because of this, I think I will contact csa like you said it may cause bad feeling but at least it will be fair, I pay for a tutor £16 a week and everything else, svhool dinners etc

I work two full days and two part time days 9.30 till 2.30 I have a chronic illness so I can't really work much more, this amount kills me as it is

Even with the other children taken into account, it is still way more than you getting now.

You should be getting more than that even with the other children taken into account. Go through CSA and then its formalised, everyone knows what is being paid and when, and it takes away any element of control he might seek to exert via fucking around with the maintenance amount.

I know and I bet if I don't let him have hin weekends he won't bother

Then if he doesn't bother having your son, he will have to pay more.

£270 A month a quick calculation suggests.. thats assuming he has the kid on average 1 day a week.

Why do these men think its clever to leave their kids skimping.

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