To have 3 bridesmaids?

[daisysun]

I'm getting married next year and wanting my 3 best friends as bridesmaids. How will that look in pictures? Will it make things look “off”? I’m one that likes things very symmetrical and matchy matchy and I’m hoping that won’t throw me off. If you had 3 bridesmaids, how did it work? Did it look ok in photos?

Ps. I know this is a ridiculous thing to worry about in the grand scheme of things but the perfectionist in me is crying at the thought of unevenness 😅

Sack off your friends and get in equal numbers of indentical models.

I had 3 - didn’t even think about it.
Looks absolutely fine in photos- me stood between my two friends and my sister but then again we only had a couple of ‘posed’ shots as that isn’t my style.

Who looks at their wedding photos?

I had three, it was lovely. Sister and two friends. Looked great in the pictures!

How will it be uneven if there's you, your DP, three bridesmaids and presumably three groomsmen?

I'm having three. And although I also like evenness/symmetry (to the point if I knock one arm against something I need to go knock the other one too), knowing I've picked the three most important women in my life to stand beside me overrides all my other thoughts about it. :)

It won't look weird in photos. All anyone should be seeing is how happy everyone looks!

Does your other half have 3 groomsmen/women to even out the scene? If not, then yes, 3 extras on your side and not theirs would look lopsided and strange!

I had three. It was fine and we're still married 20 years later so it didn't unbalance our marriage...

What’s more important- enjoying your wedding the way you want it with people you love, or photos of your wedding that adhere to some arbitrary notion of balance.

Oh my goodness! They are your friends! How can you even care how this would affect the photos!

I had 5 (young) bridesmaids and two page boys. You really won’t care about even numbers when you look back on the pictures, you’ll care that your closest people were next to you.

An exactly equal number of bridesmaids flanking the bride makes you look like a flock of geese in a Flying V formation.

@Eleoura

Does your other half have 3 groomsmen/women to even out the scene? If not, then yes, 3 extras on your side and not theirs would look lopsided and strange!

I had three bridesmaids. DH had 5 ushers plus a best man. Didn't occur to either of us to try and deliberately even it up. We just asked the people we wanted to to be a part of it.

@DappledThings- That is nice to know what you had at YOUR wedding!?!

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Well yes. It's an alternative opinion to the idea that uneven numbers is somehow strange or worthy of consideration. Somewhat the point of the thread really.

@Eleoura

Does your other half have 3 groomsmen/women to even out the scene? If not, then yes, 3 extras on your side and not theirs would look lopsided and strange!

Lopsided and strange? Is a matching amount of bridesmaids and groomsmen really a thing anymore?!

OP, have who you want. The photos will look wonderful whatever, because they'll be your memories of a wonderful day. I had 5 (3 adults, 2 children) and the photos of all of us are brilliant! Choose your friends and don't worry about photos at all, honestly.

Oh, and DH had NO groomsmen. Not even a best man.

Just have who you want, OP!

What about the photos of you and soon-to-be DH? They won’t be symmetrical. You need to ditch him and marry your identical twin.

Alternatively you could treat your friends like actual human beings and not props for photos.

A friend decided she couldn't have more bridesmaids than groomsmen because it would look strange in photos. To be honest, some of her friendships were never quite the same after that. People that matter should come first, not aesthetics/photos.

Why have you asked the same question in 2 different places ?

I can't believe this is even being asked.

Surely the photographer is there to record the wedding, not the other way round where you arrange the wedding to suit some sort of 'Instagram ready' photographs.

I chose the people I wanted to be my bridesmaids. The fact there was 3 of them doesn't seem to have harmed our marriage in any way.

Are you valuing the photos more than your friends and husband to be?

3 is the most normal number of bridesmaids I come across regularly. I had 3.

Erm I had 3, my cousins and my little sister.
My husband had 4 groomsmen; my little brother, his brother in law, his best man and our nephew.
There were no issues about it being/looking “odd”, it actually worked out well. My husband and His best man at the front of the alter, my little sister and nephew walk down together, my younger cousin and my brother walk down together, my older cousin and husbands brother in law walk together and finally me and my dad.