To be annoyed with 6yo slapping lips when eating

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It's driving me insane. I love him, but good god I'm struggling to sit next to him while he's eating! It's really obnoxious chewing too... Like a cow chomping grass.

Anyone have any ideas on how to deal with it? At the moment I'm continually reminding him to close his mouth when he chews, but it feels like I'm just constantly nagging him. Have to remind him 8-10 times minimum per meal. It puts a real downer on meal times.

I've also tried doing the noises to him so he can hear what it's like. This has no effect on him whatsoever.

I do want to eat with him, so eating separately isn't an option.

He doesn't have any breathing issues which prevents him from closing his mouth with chewing.

Please tell me I'm not alone in hating the sound of it and he'll grow out of it eventually!

When you say 'lip smacking' do you mean eating and chewing with his mouth wide open?

Does he have any nasal issues? Breathing problems? Adenoids? Maybe he physically has issues breathing through his nose whilst eating which is causing an issue?

It's taken years with DS, now 11. Years. He genuinely didn't know he was doing it but there's no way I'm sending an adult into the world eating with his mouth open! I feel the same as you though, it does take the fun out of mealtimes sometimes.

BIL doesn't close his mouth when he chews. It's disgusting, I wish his mum had taught him some table manners when he was 6.

I have misphonia but we also have some universally loud eaters in the family. One (adult) actually dislocates their jaw with every single mouthful making a loud popping noise and slurps and chews very loudly. They are deaf though so we have to all be kind and understanding - the pair of us have the opposite problem.

The way I get around this is by always having the radio on in the background and sitting next to it at mealtimes and furthest away from the loudest eaters. If it's just a drink or snack time, I make this the time when I do a chore or wash up the dishes by hand. My misphonia gets worse with PMS so there are some times I just have to avoid eating with the loud people.

Sometimes it's even breathing noises that set my teeth on edge. Not a fun way to live.

@Eleoura

When you say 'lip smacking' do you mean eating and chewing with his mouth wide open?

Does he have any nasal issues? Breathing problems? Adenoids? Maybe he physically has issues breathing through his nose whilst eating which is causing an issue?

Mouth wide open, slack jawed, slow motion chomping... With the smacking sound effect on each chomp

There's nothing physically wrong with him and his breathing is absolutely fine

It's weird isn't it because I think babies slapping their lips when they are eating is adorable and when animals chomp it's so cute but after about 3 I get really bloody standby! My kids don't do it but my niece 😫. My eldest child has also got a hatred of it, she heard someone eating crisps in the room the other day, looked at me and said 'we need to leave'. She can be vicious with it!

I think it’s reasonable at that age to be asking him to close his mouth when he eats.

Preserve.

Lousy table manners are a terrible social handicap IMO.

Before he starts eating speak about it.
Keep on at him.

Painful but has to be done.

Oh this would drive me insane. Even the noise of my pets eating grates on my nerves 🤣🤣 I have to leave the room.

@theheartofthematter

It's weird isn't it because I think babies slapping their lips when they are eating is adorable and when animals chomp it's so cute but after about 3 I get really bloody standby! My kids don't do it but my niece 😫. My eldest child has also got a hatred of it, she heard someone eating crisps in the room the other day, looked at me and said 'we need to leave'. She can be vicious with it!

I like her style 😂

I've found my tribe. I have severe misophonia. I don't know what to do with myself when I hear chompy eaters.

I was around a child yesterday who I thought was doing it for effect it was so bad it was this neat little open and close with the loudest smack and Chomp each time the lips met.

We eat with the radio on. I feel terrible as my husband hates eating around me (he's not a bad eater either). His friend visits us once a year (lives abroad) and he troughs his food. I have to leave.

I can't deal with restaurants either. People eating crisps in pubs can ruin my experience. I was in a restaurant last week and I could hear the man on the next table chewing and it put my off my food.

My friend actually left her partner when we were in our 20's as she couldn't live a life of eating with him.

Eating habits absolutely can cause the break up of a relationship.

To me it would kill my appetite and is like nails dragging on a blackboard, I simply can't cope at all.

But I had a friend that had the biggest, longest crush on a colleague, a really nice guy that she was swooning over for absolute months.
Office lunch thing and she came back completely cured, he ate with his mouth open and she couldn't eat her meal with the shock and disgust.
100% instant turn off.

Table manners are massively important in a long term partner.