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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To find this so annoying?

68 replies

LemonSherbetFancies · 21/06/2021 10:55

Had to call a colleague a few times over work matters. It's not her scheduled work hours when I call which I do admit to but it's usually just a quick question and usually just before her shift (we don't work the same ones.). Yet she never picks the phone up. I find it so irritating. I then text her and she replies after a few moments.
Aibu to say pick up the phone!!

OP posts:
EL8888 · 21/06/2021 10:56

She’s not working so why should she or would she answer? She’s either busy or setting boundaries. Either way you are being unreasonable

proopher · 21/06/2021 10:56

She doesn't have to pick up the phone if it's not her scheduled work hours. She's not being paid. Just call her when she's working.

takealettermsjones · 21/06/2021 10:56

You're being massively unreasonable and I can't believe you don't know that deep down!

Queenie6655 · 21/06/2021 10:56

What is she is
Sick
Caring for someone
Looking after her kids

This kind of behaviour from people at work drive me mad

Bet she is ignoring your calls for a reason

Bluntness100 · 21/06/2021 10:57

Stop contacting her when she’s not working.

sunnysidegold · 21/06/2021 10:57

I think she is making the point that it's not her work hours and therefore doesn't have to answer. At least she responds to a text.

Aprilx · 21/06/2021 10:58

My first time saying it, but I suspect a reverse.

Soubriquet · 21/06/2021 10:58

Yes I would find it incredibly annoying that a colleague was calling me when it wasn’t my working hours

Shoxfordian · 21/06/2021 10:58

She’s not working so don’t call her

StevieNix · 21/06/2021 10:59

Stop contacting her when she’s not working bloody hell- I hope this is a reverse!

EL8888 · 21/06/2021 10:59

@Aprilx that went through my mind as well…

VimFuego101 · 21/06/2021 11:00

She isn't working so is going over and above in responding to a text. Why do you need to call her outside of her working hours?

HonestlyFuckThis · 21/06/2021 11:00

Suspect this is a reverse. If not, then yes you are being very unreasonable to expect your colleague to answer the phone when she’s not working, and frankly you’re lucky to get a text.

LemonSherbetFancies · 21/06/2021 11:01

No, not a reverse.
To me it just seems quicker than a text and is only ever very quick usually just before she starts her shift. I'm not requiring long conversations

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BigMamaFratelli · 21/06/2021 11:01

Your time isn't more important than hers. Leave her alone when she's not working!
I'd ignore you too, I wouldn't even text back

bloodyhell19 · 21/06/2021 11:01

Yes YABVVU. I wouldn't answer the phone to you either. She's not working. You are. Figure it out yourself. And if it's before her shift starts, then it can wait until her shift starts. Get over yourself.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 21/06/2021 11:01

Is this a reverse? I work office hours, no way would I answer a work call on a sunday evening or something unless it was a dire emergency.

Deadleaf29 · 21/06/2021 11:02

Unless she’s “on call” or supposed to be contactable or your “quick questions” are vitally important (someone’s life depends on the answers or the building will otherwise burn down) then stop phoning her outside her working hours. Send her a message and don’t expect an answer until she is working. If you working different hours to her is causing genuine difficulties in being able to effectively do your job (as opposed to you having to be patient or plan your “quick questions” in advance) then ask management how to address things.

iamtheoneandonlyyy · 21/06/2021 11:02

I'd complain if I was her

vodkaredbullgirl · 21/06/2021 11:02

I get annoyed when work ring me up when I'm on annual leave, asking if I can work. I don't answer the phone if I'm off, they usually leave a message.

ZombeaArthur · 21/06/2021 11:03

My work phone is turned off when I’m not working, so you could call, text or email but you wouldn’t get a response until I’m working again.

SaltAndVinegarSandwiches · 21/06/2021 11:04

I bloody hate speaking on the phone about work issues when I'm not at work. I'm fine with replying to an email in my own time but definitely don't want phone calls.

SaltAndVinegarSandwiches · 21/06/2021 11:05

@LemonSherbetFancies

No, not a reverse. To me it just seems quicker than a text and is only ever very quick usually just before she starts her shift. I'm not requiring long conversations
It's quick for you but you've interrupted whatever it was she was doing, you've forced her to answer your question then and there and pushed her into work mode when she was not at work.
HunterHearstHelmsley · 21/06/2021 11:06

If its not long before her shift, why don't you just call when her shift starts?

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/06/2021 11:08

In my place phone someone once out of work is an informal warning, twice is an official verbal, three times is official written.

Yeah, I'd make an official complaint if I were her too.