Pissed off with cleaning up after DH

[Lostsheep123]

DH came in with mucky boots after going to bonfire with DD and tread dirt all over the house and in the bedrooms straight after I'd cleaned it.
So I spent a few hours today doing laundry and hoovering. Asked DH to carry the laundry and hoover upstairs when he went up with him. I asked 3 times... he didn't I ended up doing it (I'm 37 weeks pregnant with sciatica so lifting and carrying is a struggle). I got really annoyed at DH and gave him the silent treatment, I know bad way to deal with it.

I later then snapped at him for not putting his rubbish in the bin and expecting me to do it. I asked him to be more considerate and try to keep the house more clean, he refused. DH is pissed at me for cleaning and not leaving it till when he's not there because its his last day off before he goes to work and doesn't want to hear the washing machine or hoover.
Wants me to do everything while he's not there which is impossible with the amount of mess he makes and other responsibilities I have. So his response was to just leave it. It doesn't need doing (he'll quite happily live in a pig stye).

He then went on to say "If I'm not happy with dealing with the mess and leaving all of the cleaning till when he is not about I should go get a council house." He says all I do is nag and that I am a fun sponge. But the reason I nag is because he refuses to put things back and leaves stuff on the floor and immediately makes a mess of the things I've just cleaned.

DH believes that as he pays the bills and works so as I'm a SAHM it's my responsibility to do everything? Am I being unreasonable?

I am curious to know who thinks you are unreasonable and why .

LTB.
That sounded like a threat to me

There's a thread like this almost every week and the op is always pregnant.So many wankers treating their partners like shit.

Has he recently morphed into a lazy arsehole? Did he do his share of housework before? If not I have to agree with Aquamarine and think the chances of him changing are slim.

YANBU. He's a lazy, misogynist prick. I don't work - DH wouldn't dream of treating me or our home like that.

YANBU. I'm stuck with a useless, inconsiderate man child too :/

This is sadly depressing that women have to wonder if they are BU
What a pig

If my husband spoke to me like that, he would not be my husband anymore. The lack of respect is disgusting.

Of course he wants you to do the cleaning when he's not there.
Servants are required to be invisible.

You should be thankful he lets you use the main stairs.

You need to tell him a few home truths.

He is a twat.

You are not a SAH wife right now, you are pregnant! That trumps everything.

And yes, if you are a SAH partner, it's your job to take care of the chores BUT it doesn't give anyone the right to disrespect you and mess things up!

I honestly would get a cleaner.

Actually , I would think about moving out, but it's not something you do, pack and leave. You need time to prepare, and you need to concentrate on your baby for now.

Thanks everyone for your support. Means so much to me. I've been so confused and not sure whether I'm the one being unreasonable.
He used to try and make an effort before but I must admit there were warning signs that I totally ignored because he says the right things. I feel like such a fool winding up in this situation. I don't have a support network or friends nearby.
He's really good with DD and I fear what affect a separation will have on her.
I don't even know if I've got the guts to leave. I was in emergency accommodation in the past i know how tough that was. I really dont want to wind up down that route but I'm not sure if I have much choice.