Aibu regarding ex who is in new relationship

[Evielucy2019]

Hi

My ex partner has been in contact with me. I have a 2 year old but he is not her dad. He is a previous ex, I haven’t seen him in about 4 years. He knows I have a child now and he has a new girlfriend who he’s been with for over a year.

He’s told me he misses me and still thinks about me a lot. He also asked if I’d be up for seeing him sometime but I’d have to keep it quiet. I do sometimes still think about him as well as we were in a long term relationship which ended on good terms. Not sure if I’m doing this because I’m a lonely single parent and been alone for a long time. Aibu to be messaging him back?

Do you really want to be his dirty little secret?

So he wants to cheat on his partner? With you.

“ but I’d have to keep it quiet”

He wants you to be the other woman.

Run a mile, you can do better than that!

Have some self respect!

Yes, YABU. I find being "lonely" such a poor excuse, I have been a single parent for 7 years and have more respect for myself than being someone's "secret."

I think you know it’s wrong, that’s why you’re posting.

‘You’d have to keep it quiet’ is an immediate red flag and should be the end of it. He’s not after a reconciliation because you’re his ‘one that got away’, he wants another woman and it’s trying his luck. You might not have even been the only one he’s messaged! You deserve better than this OP

Yuck. He wants you to be his dirty secret

Ugh gave some pride ffs.
Don’t let your DD grow up seeing her mum be used as a dirty side piece or living with a serial cheat (which is what he is).

Pride ffs - get some!

You're nothing more than a booty call to stoke his ego. Have some respect for yourself & his current partner

You are better than that. You deserve a decent man who is proud to be your partner, not some cheating tosspot who just wants you for sex on the side. When you are single, crappy sleazy men appear from nowhere, and think you will be grateful for sex with them. You don't have to be.

Oh cmon you don’t want to be his bit on the side, not really?

I would meet him if he isn't married.

Steer clear.

Keep your dignity and self respect. 🌸

@Viviennemary

I would meet him if he isn't married.

And be his bit on the side, ew

He thinks he'd like a shag..

Ewww. They always do this. Ignore, or tell him to fuck off.

How the hell dare he.

Dont ever entertain the cheating scumbag.

You and your child are WORTH SO MUCH MORE.
'Keep it quiet'...

I'd kick him to the beyond for ever suggesting it.

He'll be messages countless other woman... trying his arm with his 'dirty little secret' option for a free ride... yuck

Thank your lucky stars he's an EX 🌸

*messaging

If you're lonely and looking to date, start with available men who respect you. He isn't the only option. He certainly isn't a good option!