DP and I got together very young. We had a child together a few years ago. I’m not sure the attraction (on my side) was ever that strong but he’s nice, kind and considerate. But after 12 years together it stopped being enough.
I broke up with my DP about 20 months ago as it was no longer working. We were snippy with each other and I felt very little for him. I had a couple of flings/ short term things since: yet only one I was really attracted. However his lifestyle and habits put me off anything more serious. During Covid, DP became my natural bubble and we become closer again. Really good friends. Started sleeping together again - and here we are back together.
I still don’t feel a lot of sexual attraction to him but I adore him as a person. And maybe that really is enough.
I don’t have sexual excitement or attraction, but I have consideration and a friend. We do have sex and it’s generally a neutral experience for me but he does gives me orgasms so it’s fine, I guess (better than the many men who didn’t seem to know that I even had a clitoris, let alone what to do with it). Is everything important, or is it okay to just remain comfortable?
I am fully prepared to be told that several posters do in fact have it all - and if you do, how?