To tell daughter not to get her hopes up?

[MiaMarshmallows]

Grandkids were in the same school yet daughter did not feel it was stretching them academically enough so put them on the waiting list for another school.
1 grandkid got in, the other still waiting.
Daughter is sure second child will get in for September and is raising the child's hopes up. Aibu to say it may never happen especially as the school is a popular one?

Where abouts is child 2 on the waiting list and does the school prioritise children with a sibling already attending?

I think she has good chance, especially as it's only June. However, I wouldn't be raising the child's hopes and saying it's a certainty.

I'm not sure if the school prioritises those with siblings already at the school but I believe so. Yet I know there are strict rules in class numbers so unless someone leaves I feel it may not happen until much further down the line or if at all..

What year is the child going into? Also do you know where they are on the waiting list?

Giving prefererence to those who already have a sibling at the school is a good sign, and for your daughter to be so confident the child will get in I suspect they know they're very near, if not top of the waiting list.

I wouldn't say anything. It's entirely possible your daughter knows something you don't, and no joy will come of telling her not to get her hopes up anyway.

YABU. It's not your call.

You are right OP, I'd also err of the side of caution, and not build the child's hopes up where there is a possibility of disappointment.

If it was a gift you know you will buy them, then fine, but this situation is quite different.

I do hope she gets in, and it does sound hopeful as the sibling has gotten entry.

Good luck to you all

Stay out of it and let your daughter handle her own children as she sees fit.

Once one sibling is tbere, the other gets priority(assuming you’re in England). Someone will leave eventually. You’re right that it could take years but I think she has to give the second daughter hope, what elsr can she do? Tell her she’s stuch at a crap school forever? I don’t see how that woukd help.

False hope isn’t always bad.

Tell her she’s stuch at a crap school forever? I don’t see how that woukd help.

False hope isn’t always bad.

False hope is a DREADFUL thing to give anyone never mind a Child ... OMG 😱

Did you know (ime) the waiting list is wiped clean the last day of term in July. Ring up the last day and ask what date you need to ring to get at the top... .. A chance they be first in the list.

In general children do not have the level of resilience that many of us had when we were their age. Even before the pandemic.

So false expectations are 100% wrong. Realism and a plan B is the best thing.

When I wanted to move my children to a different school they initially only had room for one, but child 2 got a place a few months later. Anecdotally I found that this was quite common. I wouldn't worry.

@FlowerArranger

When I wanted to move my children to a different school they initially only had room for one, but child 2 got a place a few months later. Anecdotally I found that this was quite common. I wouldn't worry.

great news 🌸